“Everything passes, and this will pass, ” reads the wisdom of the people. However, in matters of the heart, things are not so simple. When it comes to feelings, to abandon a person, even if it is for the good sometimes extremely difficult. The owner mechanism is triggered. How to learn to let go, while maintaining respect for the former partner and for himself?
Instruction manual
one
First you need to let go of a person. For this, it is necessary to temporarily disappear from each other's field of vision. After parting, the first stage of rehabilitation requires about two months of silence. No calls, random meetings and letters. With long conversations with one person, a drug-like addiction arises. In order to “break up”, you need to set aside a certain period of time, otherwise the healing process may be delayed.
2
At the end of the first stage, the second will inevitably begin: pictures from the past will constantly pop up in front of you. Happy and not so. Of course, the accompanying feeling of regret and anger about the wasted time will appear. So, the time has come to try to forgive. Swear, cry, throw out all the negativity, and then forgive. It must be understood that no one owes anything to anyone. Remember only the best that was then, and do not regret what did not happen.
3
Fill the resulting void in life. Just not a new partner - now you are not ready for this yet. Find hobbies, entertainment, travel. Just do not sit at home mourning your loss.
4
Do not jam or drink your grief. This gives a temporary illusory endowment, but is not a cure. You do not want to turn into a fat, sad alcoholic?
5
Fall in love again … with yourself. The secret to having other people treat us well lies in loving yourself. If you sincerely, with all your heart (this does not apply to vanity), love and accept yourself as you are, then by will of will, surrounding people will begin to relate to you as well.
Useful advice
A new relationship can be started only when you feel that you have completely said goodbye to the past. Otherwise, it will not only not bring you satisfaction, but will also make the innocent person suffer, in whose arms you decided to find solace.