Everyone sometimes wants to fix the past. A careless word, a stormy emotion, a sharp conflict - all this sometimes makes us reproach ourselves for not being able to restrain ourselves in time, not calm down, or wait for an unpleasant moment. It becomes especially difficult later, when the understanding of one’s own wrongness and undeserved resentment of other people comes. Of course, this cannot be returned, but with the help of a psychological technique, we will try to correct the past.
Instruction manual
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Relax. Sit or lie down in a comfortable free position. Mentally plunge into the past, into an unpleasant situation that you would like to correct.
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Feel all your emotions and re-experience all the experiences that you experienced at that time. Enter the situation and live it again from beginning to end, remembering all its details to the smallest detail.
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Take a break. Analyze how you are feeling right now. Think about how unpleasant experiences of the past can pull back and hinder development if you keep them in mind all the time. Let the pause last until you calm down.
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Now remember the beginning of the situation. Start living it again and mentally, step by step, model its development that you think is right. Do not hold back, loosen control over your mental behavior. Do what you want, what you think is necessary.
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Continue to model the situation by understanding and anticipating other people's reactions to your behavior. Be honest, respect equality. If you do not restrain yourself, let other participants in the situation also not restrain themselves.
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Mentally ask your opponents about the reasons for their behavior and tell us about your feelings and feelings, about your motivation. Perhaps in your thoughts you will come to new conflicts. It's okay, live these conflicts and do not forget to analyze your feelings.
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Develop the situation in this way until the unpleasant or, perhaps, conflict state has exhausted itself and ceases. If you feel satisfied, then everything was done correctly.
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Remember and mentally reproduce several times the development of events that you liked and aroused positive emotions. Remember this condition.
Remember, you cannot fix the past. You can change your attitude towards him and prevent similar mistakes in similar situations that will surely arise in order to test your strength.