At times, even in the most active people, there come periods in life when you want to give up. We are not perpetual motion machines, and we cannot constantly maintain a high level of desire for work, study, and even sex. Sometimes life in general is so tiring that there is no need to strive for something. Psychologists say: sometimes lazy is useful. However, if a prolonged lack of desire for something or someone begins to bother you and your loved ones, you need to take certain measures.
Instruction manual
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If you feel tired, take a break. Have an unscheduled day off, fully relax both body and soul. For example, spend half a day in a foamy bathtub, or go to a nearby park and just wander around it alone, without thinking anything special. The body will be grateful to you even for such a short-term fasting day. If one day is not enough, try to take a short vacation or arrange a weekend so that no one bothers you. Bring your unwillingness to an extreme point: wallow in bed all the way, watch movies one by one, do not answer calls. Most likely, you will be fed up with such a life in a few days.
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If another person depends on your unwillingness, and this often happens when one of the spouses is disappointed in an intimate life, contact a specialist. A family psychologist will advise you, both individually and together with your spouse. Together, you will find out the reasons for the lack of desire and determine the steps to rectify the situation. Feel free to try a variety of remedies: from medications to psychological training. And remember that "physical causes are very rare very rarely - in no more than 7-10% of cases, " says sexologist Boris Egorov. "All other difficulties are psychological in nature."
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In the case when you do not want to do some familiar things, try to take on the unusual! The taste for life is best returned by a sharp release of adrenaline into the blood. Even if you are not a fan of an active lifestyle, push yourself into a small feat. Jump with a parachute, go skiing, take the company at night to the airport to see how the planes take off, or meet the dawn at the pond … Surprisingly, even such simple, it would seem, actions trigger an interest program in the body around the world. If sport is a native element for you, try the opposite. Going to the theater, to the exhibition, and even a blind date is all that will move you off the ground and return the desire to live.
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- Do not blame yourself for the lack of desire, negative is no good. It is better to sketch on paper a plan of concrete actions to overcome this situation.