The death of a loved one always becomes a shock, even if it was not unexpected. It will take a long time for the pain from the heavy loss to subside and allow you to return to normal life. People suffer loss in different ways. Someone quickly comes to their senses, and someone and years can not get rid of longing and pain.
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The most mysterious side in human life is death. Losing loved ones gives you the feeling of soil being knocked out from under your feet. It may seem that life is completely destroyed and has lost all meaning. Suffering seems unbearable. This is sorrow for a deceased loved one, self-pity, a feeling of loneliness and hopelessness. Feeling guilty, the inability to turn time and helplessness from the thought that nothing can be corrected, often completely destroys the life of one who is faced with a similar situation.
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It’s impossible to come to terms with the thought of loss and you need to realize that months, maybe years, must pass before the heartache ceases to be so acute. The funeral and farewell to the deceased does not give anyone the right to put an end to their own lives. The soul of the departed needs support and a bright memory of him should not be lost under the influence of despair and depression. Accept death does not mean oblivion and lack of experience. Do not hold back tears and hide how heavy and unbearable your feelings are from others. Manifestations of grief are natural, pain must be lived through to cope, get used to it and find the lost balance.
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The “hold on” and “fasten” tips do not mean that grief should be driven deep into the soul. Memories of a loved one and stories about him do not indicate weakness of spirit, even if they are accompanied by tears. Emotions should spill out, the opportunity to speak out helps this best. Holding back emotional manifestations of grief can lead to prolonged depression. If after 3-4 months after the funeral the condition does not improve, it may make sense to seek the help of a practical psychologist. Do not abuse sedatives. The muffled pain intensifies when the effect of the drug comes to an end.
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An attempt to go into grief with one's head, to concentrate on loss and to withdraw into oneself leads not only to violations of physical and mental health. Avoiding a normal life makes friends and relatives worry and worry, and can complicate family relationships. Do not forget about people who are alive and close. They should not be deprived of love and care. Even if the pain of loss is unbearable, you need to gather all the mental strength and try not to avoid communicating with family. You cannot even think only of yourself in such a situation. Let me give you support, this is necessary not only for you, but also for your family.