Breaking the relationship between spouses is a big disaster, although many contemporaries relate to this problem very easily. If love was real, and the relationship broke up, then inevitably a strong and serious experience, grief, especially if one of the spouses is completely unprepared for this.
Instruction manual
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Try to determine the reason that led to such an unexpected outcome of events that ended in a divorce, comprehend your relationship, their beginning and development.
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Speak your problems with a pleasant conversationalist. True, not every interlocutor is suitable for assisting one of the spouses in a divorce. Sometimes relatives, colleagues or friends say: "Forget him so-and-so." Or: "Stop you thinking about him!". In fact, if such advice is accepted, then the holy feeling is vulgarized by gossip. One has only to take the advice of "compassionate" people, as you immediately want to take revenge on your "half", your beloved and close man once turns into an enemy.
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Your task is not to lose your sense of responsibility, not to panic, and not to become isolated. From a dramatic event, such as a divorce, one needs to learn a new life experience, do not become hard of soul, do not reject a loved one, but try to understand him, as he is spiritually weak and could not resist the temptation. In this difficult situation, ask God for help, often go to church. Communicate with the priest. This will help you safely resolve the situation.
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How can children explain the situation of divorce of parents? Little preschoolers are innocent and naive. Parents can easily fool them. We can say that "dad or mom went on a business trip for a long time", "he works a lot." But the child emotionally feels the situation, and from stress and anxiety, he can even get sick, act up, stutter. In children of primary grades, against the background of a divorce, school performance may decrease. We can say to the child this way: “For now, we will live separately, and time will tell there. We discussed this issue and decided that we better stay separately.”
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If you are very nervous and worried about a divorce, then new sores will be added to the sores that are, and you will feel a spiritual devastation. Therefore, you need to get distracted, go on vacation to another place. See your friends, go out into the light. Compensate the feeling of uselessness with volunteer work, get some animal at home and gradually realize that you finally need yourself. And this last is very important. Try to quickly fill the resulting void with the theater, the search for new feelings, work.
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And later ask yourself “Who am I now?”, “What do I really want?”, And you will see how bright thoughts begin to break through longing and new desires appear, now you are a different person - truly free. Most importantly, do not despair. Feel the fullness of life, believe in your strengths, feel health, prosper, fill with creative energy, learn to rejoice and appreciate life!