Everything in the world is governed by the law of cause and effect. Click on the button to get the result. Just to know what and at what time to influence in order to achieve the desired effect. Indeed, sometimes we cannot force ourselves to motivate ourselves in a proper way for a certain action, which, it would seem, is wholly and completely in our power. Why it happens? Perhaps we do not know ourselves well enough and are captivated by the illusion of what we really want or how we can achieve this.
Property rights
The master is the master. Who pays - he chooses. All adults are aware of how this world works. But who owns us? This is a very interesting question that can be asked regarding many things. Who owns mountains, lakes and valleys? It is not difficult to find an answer to some of these, confirmed by all sorts of formal documents that have legal force. But, let's be honest, because these are conventions. Do you own this mountain? Really? Congratulations, wonderful real estate is now in use!
So who is the master of the priest himself? Only he, you answer. Except in cases falling under the category of “without a king in his head”. But it happens, (I'm sure everyone experienced this at least once) that a person doesn’t lose control of himself, but doesn’t understand the forces that dominate him. Which he is not able to ignore, thus avoiding their impact on his behavior. What is this about? The list is quite extensive. These are instincts, nature-based programs, and natural needs and inclinations, about which a person, even quite elderly, may not be aware for the time being, until that when they suddenly (and well, if appropriate) make themselves felt. And also - the limits that absolutely all people have, only some of us like to pretend that they are a kind of exception, "non-human." In addition to the above, this, of course, is the desire of the soul. True aspirations are what can make us truly happy. Sometimes we don’t pay attention to it in ourselves, or we don’t want to notice, but we don’t run away from it. It affects us. And, to our happiness, this is one of the reasons why sticks suddenly appear in our wheels from nowhere, if we suddenly decide to move in the opposite direction.
Instructions for use
A person is not a vacuum cleaner to read the instructions for use and to know everything about the features of his "life", about his possible vagaries and how to deal with them if necessary. In the same way, we cannot “contact the supplier” in case of any difficulties. Of course, it’s great if we have experienced parents, an older generation that can help us by sharing this experience. Of course, much more often, everything is not so simple. Our complexity is primarily due to our uniqueness. After all, there is no other person like you. This means that there cannot be a single recipe, unlike vacuum cleaners, when one document equally describes the entire series of many thousands. After all, they are identical.
Therefore, in a sense, the complexity that sometimes arises with our understanding of ourselves (what to speak of others!) Is the price of the uniqueness that we all possess. Recognize it as our undeniable advantage and just remember it at the right time.
Who rules the ball
So what drives us? If we strive to achieve our goals, then why sometimes we don’t do anything for this, or do it through force, feeling our own resistance? Again, everyone had moments when he realized that he was only stopping himself from receiving what he had declared he wanted. Why it happens? It is unlikely that anyone will be surprised that our psyche contains not one, but several different subpersonalities, goals, the preferences of which are sometimes opposite. Therefore, undoubtedly, the most accurate knowledge of ourselves is very beneficial for us. Everyone, even the darkest corners of his subconscious. After all, in order to change a belief, one must first recognize it. Without this, it is impossible to find wholeness when there are no problems with self-management.
How to achieve this? Reading smart books is unlikely to help here, because they are not written about you personally, but contain some generalizations that you can only partially apply to yourself. (Just like allergy-tested products are not 100% safe, because they have not been personally tested for you. J) The method is simple - observe. Watch yourself and your life, because to a large extent it is the result of the creativity of each of us. And reflects the attitude towards oneself, others, the world - the most diverse internal attitudes. Many surprises await us on this path, and it cannot be called short. Sometimes it’s very difficult, sometimes a little easier, but as you move forward, life improves without a doubt - the inner feeling of life and oneself, and this, as you know, is the main quality of life.
It becomes a discovery for many when they first recognize the fact that true, unconditional love is passionless. It's simple: there is a feeling, but there is no fire that devours you. And this is exactly the property with which you need to observe yourself: no judgments or bursts of emotions - only facts, information. It’s important to rejoice when you learn something new about yourself. Especially unpleasant. After all, it hurts, and support is doubly necessary here. The call to rejoice is not idle talk, there is a reason: truth is power, truth is life-giving, it is impossible to win without truth. "Hooray! Now I know!" - This simple thought can become an anesthetic pill.
Unscientific approach
Yes, our uniqueness and ability to change over time makes us very difficult creatures. But at the same time interesting. Many people like science. They like to measure and sort everything out. It’s easier, more clear. So it’s better to exercise control. Divide and conquer is a timeless principle that can be considered in very different contexts.
So, it is completely inapplicable to an individual person. If this person does not want to control this person, but this person himself. Here the opposite is completely unscientific. Why? Because we creatures are primarily irrational. Perhaps many will disagree with me. Especially men. Especially for men. But try to answer the question “why” when you choose something that is not based on an outweighing scales with advantages, something that is most beneficial to you, but simply something that is most suitable for you, that can make you happy. Why? Just because. Because why. There is no answer, there will not be and cannot be. Hooray! After all, this means only that we are still people, not robots, and in addition to the cold mind, we have a lively and warm (and someone even has a hotter) heart.
Connect and be indestructible - this is a principle that should be applied to yourself in order to succeed and be happy. Combine yourself in pieces, put together, and then from the constructor given to you at birth, you can get a beautiful figure. After all, each of the particles wants you well. But he understands it in his own way. And for the good to happen, such as you understand it, you need to accept each of these parts, thank you for your help and explain how you want it to act.
Exciting adventure
Time. Time. Time. Sometimes we are so afraid of the course of time that we forget how much good it brings to us. We are afraid to grow old, not to be able to do something, we are afraid of speed, which is “too much” for us. And this fear is not unfounded, therefore it is never too late to switch to the "slow" mode, because - it is proved - you go quieter, you will go further.
But how much good does the action of time give us, without taking into account the very new events that happen to us! This is the depth. Development of action, outcome and outcome, or simply a new quality of life. Time is a great inspector. What turns out to be sufficiently “durable”, deserves the right to continue its life, it only gets better from its impact. Just like wine. Indeed! Look at people who love each other, and together for many years - they love only stronger over time. No, this is not fiction. It happens. Time pulls many things out. And good ones too. And when you know, the heart is full of truth, and no one can take your happiness from you. You know that they love you, and they will, no matter what happens. You know who you are and who you will always be in your essence, no matter what happens. You know that life is an amazing adventure, and no matter what happens next, this cannot be changed.
Having finally left others alone and preoccupied with ourselves, we are increasingly learning to control ourselves. At the same time, each of us to the end remains a mystery, an incomprehensible mystery, like a reduced copy of the mystery of life itself. Knowing and understanding ourselves better, we manage our resources more easily as we would like. Maybe you can get to the bottom when there are no more surprises and hidden places in yourself, but, in my opinion, you’re not sorry for your whole life to find out: how deep is your rabbit hole?