It is known that absolutely everyone has complexes, but some successfully cope with them and lead, as psychologists believe, a full life, while others are fixated on their shortcomings and do not know how to get rid of them. It is important to be able to defeat complexes, because this skill is able to positively affect the future.
Instruction manual
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Psychologists divide complexes into two categories. The first group includes congenital ones - this is natural shyness or, for example, timidity in communication and decision-making. The second category includes acquired ones - this is a distrust of people, which, for example, caused an unsuccessful experience of communicating with peers in childhood. It should be understood that a person will be able to get rid of the second type of complexes if he shows a drop of confidence, here the choice is his.
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If we accept the fact that a person himself is the cause of all problems, as a given, then it will be much easier to deal with complexes. You can start by making small victories. This, for example, daily exercise or meditation, personal care and systematic reading of books. A lot of examples can be given, however, the introduction of new useful habits in life helps to eliminate the internal barrier, as well as most of the complexes.
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A long-established fact - a person often forgets the positive aspects of life, and negative ones sometimes leave an indelible imprint. It is very important to try to restructure your thinking. You can keep a diary and list from time to time all the good, and the bad just to erase from memory. Many, trying to forget someone or something, always think about this person or events, thereby only rooting them in their memory. In this case, to cope with emotions will help a new hobby, a change of work, activity or study.
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After completing the first points, people usually have a certain confidence in their abilities. They understand that they are able to overcome many difficulties and overcome hateful complexes within themselves. It is enough to recall those around you - after all, everyone has these very complexes, but not everyone puts them on display.
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It is necessary to see the end result and gradually strive for it. Set feasible tasks and move slowly towards the intended goal.