Why do some people, without making any effort, easily find a common language with others, while others, no matter how hard they try, can not get close to anyone? This question often torments those who do not know how to converge with people. However, this relationship problem can be completely resolved if you follow certain techniques.
Instruction manual
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Look for the reason why it’s hard for you to get in touch with the people around you. To do this, you can contact a psychologist or conduct an introspection. Qualities that contribute to finding a common language with people: sociability, eloquence, the ability to empathize and understand others. Conversely, excessive self-confidence and uncertainty negatively affect the perception of the personality of others. Answer honestly, what qualities do you have more - positive or negative? And try changing your behavior to become more attractive. What should be done for this?
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First, find something good in every person, it will be easier for you to communicate, and you will behave more naturally.
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Secondly, learn to listen to people around you. This technique will certainly work, because everyone likes the interest shown to themselves, their beloved. In no case do not interrupt the interlocutor if he talks about himself. Be careful, empathize with him. Make eye contact - it always makes a good impression.
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Thirdly, try to show yourself only from the best side. It is no secret that in each person there are both positive and negative traits. If you want to learn how to converge with people, show them only your best self.
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Support your interlocutor if he tells you about his plans and dreams. Even if the ideas are absurd, do not tell him that. Be sure to emphasize your common views and interests. Talk, during the conversation a person can change his mind and will be grateful to you.
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Never get mad at anyone for too long. This feeling destroys all good things and when it leaves you will feel empty and miserable. But express your approval as sincerely as possible. Compliment to women more often, men praise for ideas and actions. Positive emotions will definitely contribute to your rapprochement. Just remember, if a praise or a compliment is insincere, it will make an extremely negative impression and will nullify all your efforts.
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In communication, try to avoid both complaints of life and the assurance that everything is fine with you. Both of these positions cause a negative impression. To the question "how are you?" better joke. But if someone with you is engaged in self-flagellation, do not agree with him, but support and calm. If a conflict suddenly arises during communication, do not ignore it, but try to find the cause and eliminate it. Admit that you have made a mistake and will be respected.
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And the last, always be polite and friendly, even when it is difficult to do, and you can meet people in any situation. A lifesaver in many difficult circumstances can serve as humor.