It happens that initially the goal of a relationship is enrichment. Such relationships do not always reach the wedding and have several classic schemes of implementation. Marriage swindler - a specialist in his field. How to recognize him in time and not become a victim of fraud?
The classic scheme of the marriage speculator
All actions of the marriage swindler are calculated to the smallest detail and divided into several successive stages. Before marriage or the beginning of a relationship, he presents himself as a wealthy person. Various stories about where and what he bought, what property he owns, how much he borrowed money and to whom are used. All this is presented in such a manner that there is not the slightest doubt about its security, in addition to this, a feeling of honesty and decency is created. Courtship is very beautiful, here a man spends a certain amount on flowers, sweets and sometimes even restaurants.
Further, in the course of fraud, a play is played in which he loses money, work, or is forced to urgently take a big loan, which then will inevitably disappear in the unknown. Certain acts of this performance can be played even before marriage. In some cases, marriage does not make sense, since it is possible to get everything already at the courtship stage. If it comes to the wedding, then the man does not bring any property to the new family, not to mention the money.
Stories about the problems are accompanied by beautiful promises that very soon all the money will return and the trap will be closed. The poor victim, blinded by feelings and pity on the one hand, and believing in the inevitable enrichment and bright future, begins to do everything that is possible in this situation for the beloved. She gives back her last savings, takes loans. Sometimes it even comes to selling real estate. The situation may be accompanied by invented problems with relatives, etc. There is no limit to fantasy and imagination. In one case, a man managed to get a stranger to permanently reside with a "beloved" woman, saying that he was his relative, but in fact, he took money from him behind him for living.
Usually a marriage swindler takes advantage of the created position to the last, deriving considerable profit from it, and then gracefully disappears.
What feelings does a marriage swindler exploit
The main feeling that our hero enjoys is a sincere desire to help him and pity. If this is accompanied by falling in love, then soon a good basis for manipulation appears. You just need to hint that he needs a certain amount of money so much as the processed victim does everything herself to get it. Sometimes a con man works so subtly that he even allows himself to be persuaded to accept help.
In a situation of strong manipulation, as a rule, women who find themselves deprived of love for one reason or another fall. It is them that can more easily be made dependent on the manifestation of approval if they do what the scammer needs. After all, otherwise they cannot receive the same portion of approval and attention in life. And these manifestations are used as a bargaining chip for all material wealth. If a woman is surrounded by male attention, then the chance of falling into this trap is reduced.
Have you ever encountered situations in your life when you felt like someone's savior. Agree that this is a very sweet feeling that emphasizes personal significance. If it is not enough in life - this feeling can be easily manipulated, which is successfully demonstrated by numerous stories of love scams.
And in conclusion, who can easily abandon future happiness and prosperity, when tempting promises are being poured, as if from a cornucopia? After all, it creates a complete illusion that you need to be patient a bit, make some effort, and very soon life will become happy and rich.