In fact, it’s normal for a normal person to doubt and rebuke himself. From time to time, a feeling of dissatisfaction with yourself may arise in everyone, but if you constantly experience it, you understand how much it prevents you from living. You seem to put an end to all your endeavors in advance, because you are not programming yourself for luck or success. You must accept yourself for who you are and stop complaining about a life that, in your opinion, is unfair to you.
Instruction manual
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Stop nodding to others and complex, seeing their virtues and realizing their lack of them. Sit calmly and formulate for yourself that you are not happy with your appearance, your character, your life. For visualization, place this in a list and write it down on paper. Now slowly think over each item and outline ways to correct your shortcomings.
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As for appearance. If you seem fat to yourself or you don’t like your hair, then this is a fixable thing - exercises in the gym and physical activity in the first case, nourishing masks and a good haircut in the second. If you are not comfortable with the shape of your nose, chest or legs, then do not rush to sign up with a plastic surgeon. Take a look around and you will realize that people are much less pretty than you, do not seem at all like those around them and have long been happy in their personal lives. So, the point here is not in appearance.
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The point is your character. If you are always unhappy with yourself and do not love yourself, then you do not think that others will love you too? Except, perhaps, a dedicated mother. So you need to change your attitude towards yourself. Understand that you are no worse and no better than the rest, you just don’t know how to set goals and fight for their achievement, overcoming difficulties and not letting go of your hands at the sight of the slightest obstacle.
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Accept yourself as you are, but this does not mean that when you realize your shortcomings, you will not change. Yes, now you are. But you can work on yourself and become better. Tell yourself this - and do it. Start small. Stop being late, then you don't have to cheat. Set a goal for yourself, break the path to it into stages and start moving. Do not give empty promises and always keep them. Start to be proud of yourself and you will like it. Self-improvement is a very exciting process, you just have to start and you can’t stop.
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And now, when you figured out your appearance and character. Your life will change itself, and will change for the better. Act!