Even in ancient times, people understood a simple thing: in reality there is no ideal. Accordingly, each of us has some shortcomings, which often interfere with our everyday life or in communication and make life difficult. However, the very first attempts to get rid of their own shortcomings show that this is not so simple.
Instruction manual
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To overcome your own shortcomings, first of all, you need to see them in yourself. No wonder there is such an image: in a stranger's eye he sees a mote, but in his logs he does not notice. So, in order to effectively eliminate their own shortcomings, you need to clearly understand what they are expressed in. And for this, proper self-esteem is needed, not overpriced or underestimated. Only in this case you can see and really evaluate your negative features.
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If you know exactly what your shortcomings are and when they appear, try to avoid situations that provoke their manifestation.
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Engage in auto-training. Mentally transfer yourself to a particular situation in which your weaknesses are manifested strongly. Try in your imagination to cope with them, to suppress them in yourself. Mentally act as you would think, ideally. Just do not resort to all kinds of dreams of magic and the like. Imaginary situations and the correct way out of them without manifesting flaws should be realistic. Be sure to come out of the presented circumstances as the winner. Such a simulation of all kinds of situations in your imagination and suppression of the manifestations of deficiencies in them will make it easier to transfer the correct conduct to practice.
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Learn to restrain yourself. No matter how you wish to do the wrong thing, obey your mind, not your emotions. And he will definitely tell you the right decision. Do not follow your wishes.
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And most importantly - do not blame anyone around you for your shortcomings. To understand what is the reason for their manifestation and how to get rid of them, it is necessary, first of all, to understand yourself. Try to understand what caused your flaws.
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To eliminate, and not exacerbate the manifestation of deficiencies, avoid not only their systematic manifestation, but also one-time. Remember: an act breeds a habit, a habit breeds character, character breeds fate! Thus, in order to overcome your shortcomings, you need to constantly work on yourself, and, therefore, on your merits. And the struggle to eliminate our own shortcomings is, first of all, the struggle with ourselves!
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