Complexes are more or less characteristic of many people. They are associated with self-discontent, which reduces opportunities and to some extent limits the ability to choose.
Instruction manual
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Look for the benefits that it brings to you. It sounds strange, but I have to admit - the complexes exist because they provide certain amenities. For example, a woman suffers an easy fullness, it’s not dozens of extra pounds and many men would have liked five additional kilos, but she did not learn how to communicate with men. It just does not know how to conduct an interesting conversation and entertain representatives of the opposite sex. And this is the main reason that her relationship does not add up. And she explains to herself that the matter is in her extra five kilograms. And she’s not trying to change anything, convincing that she’ll get rid of them, and she will be happy. That's just her subconscious will resist a decrease in her weight, because along with the extra pounds such a convenient explanation of failures will go away. The complex explains not only a fiasco in his personal life, but also professional discrepancies. So you need to find your benefits, try to face the truth and find the true reasons for your defeats.
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Make yourself live as if you have no reason for the complexes. Believe me, the majority of those around do not see other people's flaws; they are preoccupied with their own and how they relate to them. Only a very small part of adolescents carefully searches for the flaws of those around them, and they usually look for the ones that the critic himself has. Never humiliate others in order to exalt yourself. You will not be forgiven for this in an adult society; this is permissible only during the teenage war of all against all. So do not even make yourself such a habit. It’s better to get used to finding the virtues of other people and to talk about it without envy. And ignore your shortcomings.
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Try to communicate with successful and vibrant people. The feeling of confidence is contagious, you will see that everyone has their own characteristics, but successful people know how to get along with them and enjoy life. Look for biographies of famous people suffering from a complex similar to yours. And let their example inspire you!