Losing a loved one is a great grief and a difficult test. The hope that death is about others is illusory. The terrible happened - the brother died. And you constantly ask yourself how to live on.
Emotions and feelings
The death of a loved one is one of the greatest psychological injuries. When a brother dies, all thoughts, emotions are only about him. There are a swarm of questions in my head: why exactly? For what? Was it possible to save him? Who's guilty? How to live on? You feel the pain of loss almost physically. Perhaps you even think that your brother is here somewhere, now he will come up, hug, and everything will turn out to be just a terrible dream. How to survive this difficult time?
Stages of experiencing grief or what happens to you?
The first stage begins when you learn about the death of a brother. This is a shock. A sense of unreality of what is happening. You do not believe this happened. All feelings, emotions freeze, a state of numbness appears. The initial stage of grief can last up to a week, and often a person cannot even cry - there is shock and emptiness inside. Others can take this state for selfishness and callousness, but in fact, the longer the state of numbness lasts, the greater the grief.
The second stage is anger and resentment. During this stage, many questions arise on the topic of who is to blame and whether it was possible to do something. A person can already cry - and mourn not only the deceased brother. A deceased loved one, as it were, tells us that we too can die.
The third stage is the stage of guilt. Obsessive thoughts spinning in my head, “What if
“A man is obsessed with obsessive thoughts that he didn’t do something, didn’t say anything, didn’t like it. Perhaps even the guilt of the survivor. The image of the deceased brother is idealized, it seems almost holy.
Stage of acute grief. This is the peak of heartache. This period can last up to two to three months. It is also reflected physically: loss of appetite, fatigue, tightness in the chest, lump in the throat, sleep disturbance. At this moment, the person is separated from the deceased relative through pain.
Stage of adoption. No matter how severe the pain, but sooner or later it subsides, and then the stage of acceptance of death begins. This period usually takes up to a year, and then life slowly takes its toll.