The task of self-education is not the easiest in the world. It just seems that you can take and stop smoking, stop being rude, or start doing exercises. In fact, attempts to start a new life from Monday often end in failure.
Instruction manual
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Set a realistic task. Let's say if you weigh 100 kilograms and want to lose weight up to 60 in a month, this is unrealistic. As soon as you see that the business is moving slower than you want, you risk losing interest in it. Once again despair will visit you, and you will decide that you will not be able to overcome yourself. It is better to set a low bar and overfulfill the plan than to overestimate it and end up in failure.
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Increase the dose of new behavior gradually. Suppose you decide to call your grandmother every day. Do not force yourself to listen to what you have already listened to for an hour. Why bother? Tell yourself that the first month you talk to her one minute a day. The second month - two minutes. So you will quickly cope with her social dissatisfaction and be able to rejoice for your attention.
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Encourage yourself. Each person has something in life that he loves very much, but in which he is trying to limit himself. These favorite pastimes or treats you have can become the same "carrot for a donkey", which will lead you to the desired result. For example, do you like pomegranates or peaches, but consider it too expensive a treat. Allow yourself sometimes these fruits as a reward for completing the tasks that you set for yourself.
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Keep yourself some bad habit. Everyone knows that the forbidden fruit is sweet. Completely abandoning something is much more difficult than partially abandoning. Moreover, each “unwanted behavior” has its advantages. Rudeness protects, alcohol relaxes, shyness repels unnecessary people. When developing new behavior, do not abandon the old. Just learn how to use it for a task, rarely, selectively.