Hatred is the strongest negative emotion. It destroys a person, poisons his life. It is especially difficult if it is aimed at the closest and dearest, the one that will always be with you - at yourself.
Instruction manual
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Such an attitude towards oneself often comes from childhood. At the same time, it is not necessary that your parents were too oppressive, and children's sensitivity could play a role. Perhaps, in childhood, mom said that she would like her daughter to play a musical instrument, and you are completely deaf, and dad, being tired after work, scolded too much for a broken mug. This can hurt an impressionable child - it does not live up to the expectation of the mother, thereby upsetting her. The father said in your hearts that you should not touch anything, since you spoil everything - and here you are unintelligible, and you will never succeed. At the same time, it is likely that your parents forgot to think about such episodes. Speak heart to heart with them. Ask how they feel about you as an adult, what they think about your accomplishments. If you have a good relationship, then recognizing your parents will help you hate yourself less.
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Be your own lawyer. After an event do you experience a fit of hatred? Justify yourself. After the interview, you were not invited to the post because the manager wanted to see a representative of the opposite sex in this position with knowledge of Spanish, and you speak English. You did not have time to tidy up at home because you were very tired at work, performing an important task. You didn’t manage to deal with the knitting pattern, because you have never done this in your life, but it will certainly happen next time.
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Find the pros in yourself. You have many positive qualities, but you can simply not notice them behind a veil of hatred. Try to be objective and mark those traits that seem pleasant to you. This may be some kind of skill - the ability to solve problems in higher mathematics or to make pies, appearance traits - thin long fingers, graceful ankles, luxurious hair, achievements - a graduated university, a mark of an honorary donor, character traits - friendliness, perseverance, caring. Remind yourself of them more often, and better - write on a piece of paper and hang it in a prominent place.
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Surround yourself with people who will love and value you. It can be a loved one, friends, pals, colleagues. Try to limit communication with those who belittles you, devalues your achievements, does not take into account your feelings. Seeing how your environment treats you, your heart melts, you can look at yourself with their eyes and moderate your hatred.