As often happened: you are being asked for something, but you, without thinking, agree, guided by momentary blissful impulses. And then awareness comes, and you understand that you do not want to do this at all, or, moreover, you cannot. But how to cancel your decision already made?
Instruction manual
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This is not easy to do. Moreover, your cancellation, even if it occurred 15 minutes after consent, can be equated by a person with irresponsibility and even betrayal. After all, he had already hoped for you, made plans, exhaled, and then you ruin his entire scheme with the phrase "I changed my mind." Therefore, the first advice will be the following: as soon as you understand that you should refuse, do not spend too much time thinking, immediately contact the person and tell him about it. Every minute of delay can complicate the situation.
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The most difficult and the simplest thing at the same time is to tell a person everything as it is. Do not invent artificial excuses and do not drag relatives and friends to your story, to whom you have allegedly promised something. As an option: "I exaggerated my capabilities, and I most likely will not be able to fulfill your request. And since I would not want to let you down, you should find me a replacement. I hope I do not bother you very much." As a rule, such a sincere, without unnecessary fiction, recognition acts more gently, and a person treats him with great understanding.
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If the spirit is not enough to say that you just changed your mind, it is worth finding a worthy reason. But the main thing here is not to go too far. Stories about a girlfriend’s unexpectedly sick puppy whom you need to help take to a veterinary hospital are more suitable for a feature film. This will especially look ridiculous if nothing like this has happened before in your life. Tales about a leaking pipe in the bathroom are also driven out and banal. Therefore, a more acceptable option would be to say that you spun and forgot about the appointment. In this turbulent world, now this will not surprise anyone.
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Be extremely polite, do not give in to emotions and excuses, if suddenly the person to whom you promised something begins to resent and reproach you with insecurity. You made a mistake, therefore, as the culprit, you should be as discreet and courteous as possible. Apologize several times, shake your hand or pat a person on the shoulder - this will help not to break the connection between you.
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You don’t need to say phrases like “I will definitely make amends” or “Let me do something for you another time.” If you want to somehow rehabilitate yourself in front of a person, it is better to just do it once, but not promise. Repeated such a situation can fatally affect your relationship, and the glory of an irresponsible and unreliable person spreads in a matter of hours.
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But most importantly, think before you speak. Try to avoid such mistakes in the future, because each decision you cancel will add uncertainty to your personality in the eyes of other people. It will be more correct if you ask for a few minutes to think over instead of agreeing on emotions, and then clutching your head. And even more so, you do not need to agree to anything because of fear or a desire to please someone. Be honest and remember that your every decision can affect both your life and the life of another person.