In life, we communicate with different people, this adds variety. But when it comes to joint actions, projects, choosing a life partner, selecting a candidate for a responsible position, we all prefer to deal with a person who is independent, adult, able to make a decision and be responsible for actions.
As a rule, no one wants to face infantilism. How to determine the independence of man?
Instruction manual
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In a personal relationship, ask if a person has a pet? Caring for the "smaller brothers" is a manifestation of independence. Not learning how to satisfy their needs, to equip life, a person will not be able to help another, even an animal.
For a pet, especially if it is a dog, it takes a sufficient amount of time: walking, training, food, cleaning. A person learns to plan not only his time, but also the life of an animal.
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Check to see if the person has younger brothers, sisters or family members who need care. How does he interact with them? This is also a manifestation of care and independence, but the level is much higher, because we are dealing with a person.
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Find out if a person lives alone or with parents, relatives. Has he ever had the experience of self-management? If so, how long did this period last? I mean, he passed the test or not.
After all, living separately from parents, a person counts only on his own strengths, sets goals and achieves them, solves problems. Independent housekeeping is independence from others, and, consequently, independence.
It also matters whether he rents an apartment or lives in his own. For rent usually requires a lot more effort and cost, and therefore, the number of tasks and responsibility of a person increase.
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Human achievements are a sure sign of independence. Purposefulness, initiative, systematic implementation of ideas into life - these are qualities and abilities that exclude infantility.
Ask the person what achievements in his life he is proud of. And listen to his answer. This question is often asked to candidates when applying for a job.
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The position, duties and functions at the workplace will also say a lot about the independence of the person. Perseverance, organization, perseverance, the ability to attract the right people to solve problems and achieve goals, managing employees, making responsible decisions - the quality and ability of managers and managers.
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In conversation, an independent person more often uses the word "I" than "we", avoids expressions in a passive form.