Often we are faced with the fact that we can not find the right words to answer. And it doesn’t matter what exactly - to insult, to maintain a dialogue or just to console a person. And the problem is often not in the vocabulary, but in ourselves. The secret lies in the three most important skills - the ability to listen, the ability to think logically and the ability to speak, not think.
You will need
- interlocutor for practice
Instruction manual
one
Learn to listen and maintain dialogue properly.
In order to find an approach to the interlocutor, it is necessary to speak with him from his values card and precisely his words, and for this it is necessary to let him speak out first. After that, ask some leading questions in order to finally form his map and start talking with him using his speech speed and sentence design.
2
Think logically.
The letter "A" is followed by the letter "B", but also this means that in the end everything will end with the letter "I". This is the simplest scheme for predicting the outcome of a conversation due to the utterance of certain words, and it should be instantly calculated in your head, and it is in your head, and not in words.
3
Turn off the internal dialogue.
Logical thinking makes sense only when you have time to think or when a person answers you - in this case, you must simultaneously absorb information and analyze the right decisions. In the event that you respond spontaneously, there is a greater chance that your words will get to the point rather than if you think about each word.
Useful advice
Try to work out these mechanisms in a conversation with friends so that when the decisive moment arrives, you are fully equipped.