A breakup, separation, as a rule, is painfully tolerated by women. Being more emotional in nature, the fair sex is much more deeply experienced by the situation, often blaming themselves for everything that happened.
You will need
- - notebook;
- - a pen;
- - gym membership;
- - movie ticket;
- - help of a psychologist.
Instruction manual
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Calm down and analyze the event, throwing emotions away. Look at the situation from the side. Answer honestly the questions: which of you provoked the gap? Why did this happen? Do you consider yourself guilty of what happened? Did your partner seek to maintain a relationship? Try to answer objectively and impartially, just as you would before the judge.
2
For a better study of the situation, take a pen and notebook and write down all your questions and answers in it. Draw a thick line and draw certain conclusions. These may be statements such as, for example: “I was too kind to him”, “I forgave him a lot”, “He shamelessly used my kindness”, “We parted because my cup of patience was full of his lies and betrayals” etc., - the content will depend on the specific situation.
3
Having worked and examined your parting from various angles, turn the page of your life to a new one. Having clearly analyzed everything, you probably understood that your ex is far from an angel and you should not blame yourself for everything. If your fault is also your fault, well, take what happened to you as a certain experience, try not to repeat the same mistakes again.
4
Start a new life. This does not mean that you need to rush into new adventures and immediately look for the next contender for your heart. Take care of yourself, do not be afraid to be alone for a certain period of time, devote it to yourself: learn something new, enrolling in interesting courses; work on your figure, starting to swim in the pool or engage in simulators; change the image to the stylish look of a confident lady, etc.
5
Drive away all destructive thoughts and emotions, the first time after parting, they will very persistently try to get you and drag you into the pit of depression. Contrast them with the barrier that you erected from a positive outlook, good mood and positive emotions. As soon as you notice the first signs of impending discouragement, immediately switch to another type of activity: take a walk in the park, go to a movie or an exhibition, chat with friends, etc.
6
Do not take the position of the victim, do not get comfortable with this image, stop the attempts of friends and relatives to pity you. Let others know that this is not the end of your life, that you are a strong, self-sufficient person and someone who has not been able to appreciate you does not really need you.
7
If you feel that you can’t cope with negative emotions, you are constantly in a bad mood, lack of appetite, sleep disturbance, no desire to leave home, communicate with people, causeless fears and anxiety torment you - be sure to consult a psychologist for help. Individual sessions of psychotherapy will be able to return to you the lost ability to live a full life.
eight
Remember that there is always something new ahead of you, and whether it will be with a “+” sign is up to you!
note
Do not start drinking alcohol and drugs. A brief oblivion will not bring you a solution to your problem, on the contrary, there will be numerous new difficulties, including health. Remember that one or two doses are sometimes enough to establish drug addiction.
Useful advice
Take away from your eyes everything that reminds you of a former guy: photographs, his gifts, etc.