From time to time, each person sums up the past. And if the results of a life's journey seem disappointing, and half of your life has already been lived, then this is an occasion to reconsider your behavior strategies.
Instruction manual
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Make a list of changes. Belief in love spells, amulets and conspiracies is best left to the fatalists who believe that everything in our life is destined. And that means changing it is almost impossible. It will be much more realistic and effective to independently decide what exactly you want to change or fix. Find a former love? Change job? Have another baby? Only you yourself can know what kind of twists of fate you need.
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Take full responsibility for the changes. While you wait for someone to solve your problems for you (overcome your shyness, increase, make a decision), nothing good will come of it. Of course, you can go to your friends for advice on whether to get a divorce. But they will make recommendations based on personal experience and preferences. And you have to live with it. Change of fate is a risk. It may not work out what is intended. It will be better if you yourself determine how you will go to the goal, and what you will do if you fail to achieve it. In this case, no one will have to blame the failure. Yes, and most failure itself, most likely, will not be. Because you will go in the direction of changing your own life circumstances, and not in the direction of someone else's dream.
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Use the help of professionals. Many people lack the determination to change something if there is a lack of information. The psychologist can tell you how to make peace with your ex-wife. A lawyer can handle divorce issues. And yoga experts can help harmonize relationships with superiors so that you can discuss issues of career growth or getting new projects in a relaxed atmosphere. The main thing is that the help of experts should be auxiliary, not basic. Their voice should not be decisive, but advisory. Since you will still have to make decisions about the changes personally.
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Get ready for a long journey to new horizons of your life. Revolutionary changes in fate can have destructive consequences. And not everyone can do it. It is much easier to set a goal, break it into small steps, and carry them out systematically. Often, cardinal changes in life require serious work with your inner world: motivation, will, character. Of course, there are situations when the circumstances themselves give you a chance for a change for the better. Do not reject them, but hope for a miracle is hardly necessary. Only the promises of some charlatans who promise to "bewitch in three sessions" or "teach in two training sessions" are magical. In fact, you have to work hard in order to move to a new, completely different stage in your life.