Losers - a category of people who lose in life situations, lose, they are chronically unlucky, they all fail. They simply attract negative situations. How to get rid of failure?
Losers are a special category. They are called slacks, losers, regret, wonder, and yet all their failures are not just an unfavorable combination of circumstances. Loser is a way of thinking. How to change thinking in order to get rid of a humiliating diagnosis - a “loser”? In order not to feel like a failure, you need to get rid of annoying habits, change your worldview. This is not easy to do, you have to work hard on yourself!
- Get rid of the habit of patiently accepting difficulties and what you don't like. Do not eat unloved food, do not wear awkward clothes and uncomfortable shoes. Do not tolerate what you do not like! Feel the taste of life.
- Do not communicate with people who are trying to humiliate you, kill your self-esteem and constantly criticize your every act.
- Do not think about what other people think about you, what they will say or think. Your life is unique, you should not get under all, depriving yourself of the initiative. Remember: you will try to please everyone - you will lose.
- Do not try to overload yourself with other people's problems - you have enough of them. Giving promises, fulfilling other people's requests, gaining a reputation of a trouble-free person, you miss the opportunity to establish your own life, have fun and solve pressing issues for yourself, since all your time is spent on satisfying other people's interests.
- Do not try to control everything around you, take on unbearable responsibility. Get rid of the neurosis - even if you didn’t manage something, do not bite yourself! The physical capabilities and endurance of a person are limited, be more condescending to yourself and do not neglect those people who are ready to help you.
- The path of least resistance is the shortest path to a failed set of circumstances. You may have to go against someone’s opinions, cross your interests with strangers. You should not be afraid of this, otherwise you will always give up your "prey" to someone who has more strength and strength in his character.
- Do not keep all feelings “locked up”. Sometimes it’s worth letting go of yourself and saying out loud what someone might not like. Do not hold a grudge in yourself, sort things out right away. Do not complain about life and do not delve into other people's complaints, do not encourage whiners - they steal your time and luck. Sometimes you have the right to anger and love - do not be afraid to talk about your feelings out loud, an open, sincere person has much more chance of success.
- Do not be afraid to take risks, but do not forget about the rationality of risk. When making a risky decision, consider additional options, escape routes. But do not give up risk because of indecision! Do not be afraid to make a mistake - the one who does nothing is not mistaken.
- You can’t think only of others. Try to create your own personal space so that those who live nearby are warm and comfortable in it. The more comfortable you are, the better it will be around you. Do not forget about loved ones and parents - they will always be your support, unlike random people who will disown and forget about you right away if something in your life goes wrong.
- Do not spend time closing in four walls, do not be a primer. Do not buy any trash, get rid of unnecessary and old things. leave the most necessary, necessary. Do not collect unnecessary information in your head, do not store it, do not read nonsense - there is not much time in life, devote yourself to reading the most necessary and good books.
- Do not focus on past failures and achievements. What happened yesterday is already dissolved in the past. Think about the future, make plans, but take care of the present - just as much as you need. Do not be afraid to dream - dreams, especially sincere ones, always come true.
- Forget the words “I won’t succeed”, “I can’t”, “I can’t”. Do not miss the opportunity to learn something. Try to also avoid the words "If this works out …". A strong verbal formula structures the space, so it’s better to say: "When I do this …", "When this and that happens." Thus, you program yourself to ensure that everything will turn out exactly the way you want.
- Do not compare yourself with others. Everyone has their own life, their own mistakes and their own path. By imitating someone, you will become only a shadow, a copy, not realizing your own potential. Do not envy anyone, it distracts from your own life. Moreover, envious of something, we do not at all imagine how many problems an object of our envy can have - problems that we simply don’t know about.
- Do not try to be perfect, throw out the "excellent student complex" from your head. Try to be independent, but do not be afraid to use someone else's help, feel free to attract supporters and like-minded people to your business. But do not shift the responsibility to others.
- Do not think about the bad, do not listen to scary or sad stories. Get rid of shyness, slight impudence or insolence will only give you charm. Never frown in public, smile, it attracts people.
- Do not take failure as a universal catastrophe - but you should not treat it as something unimportant and ordinary for you. Analyze your own mistakes - where did you make them? Understand where you made a mistake and why and do not repeat the mistakes again.