Each of us has experienced unpleasant stories in life, but how many people have so many options for perceiving these stories. Sometimes we go too deep into our negative thoughts and begin to lose touch with a real, vibrant and fulfilling life.
Instruction manual
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There is no doubt that everything that happens in life affects our future. The key to success today is to come to terms with the past and live in the present. Do not forget, do not destroy, but accept and move on. The burden of past mistakes and disappointments sometimes presses us almost physically. And that is why this cargo needs to be comprehended and processed.
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Insomnia, irritability, distraction, anxiety - this is a list of the consequences of digging in the negative experience of the past. These are symptoms, and you can try to relieve them with antidepressants or sedatives. But it is better, nevertheless, to influence not only the effect, but the cause itself.
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To distract from chewing unpleasant thoughts is the first and, perhaps for many, healing advice. After all, it is common for all of us to lock ourselves in four walls in difficult days for us, to hide and cherish our grief. And this is fundamentally wrong! Remember that the body suffers as well as our senses. Walking in the fresh air, meeting nice people, bringing something new to life, whether it be a book, record or dance lessons - all this in a gentle mode will eventually become a priority for you and there will simply be no time to self-dig.
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Think of life as something at once. Here and now are the two words that should become your motto. Treat life from a child’s perspective: be surprised, look for a new one. Sunset over the river, leaves under your feet, a butterfly flying in the window - how long we stopped paying attention to such trifles!
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In cases where the problems of the past are unbearably pressing, it makes sense to turn to specialists. There are many ways to get rid of unpleasant thoughts. Psychotherapy does not stand still and today many doctors are ready to help people suffering from the consequences of digging in the past.
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Body-oriented therapy, for example, consists in understanding the body as a carrier that literally remembers everything that happens to us. Closing in ourselves, we close our emotions inside, not giving them a way out. As a result, we feel the body becoming physically constrained. Therapeutic touch and various exercises will restore the former ease of mind and body and restore balance.
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Cognitive therapy makes it possible to realize that what once happened is not our fault and many events are simply beyond our control. As a result, the patient is aware of the reality of what happened, freeing himself from the unfair burden of guilt.
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The anger / stress management method is also an assistant in a difficult situation. Under the supervision of a doctor, a person learns to cope with his emotions, manage them, relax and be distracted from oppressive thoughts. As a result, when remembering, it doesn’t hurt so much, we look at the situation in a new way and see not only the bad.
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Of course, time is our best helper. Our healer and guardian. A week, month, year will pass - and it will become easier for us to breathe, it is easier to remember what previously caused pain, because we survived this, realized and humbled ourselves. And this is the surest way to return to real life.
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Bad memories are like parasites and, if you do not learn how to deal with them, you can bring yourself to depression - then you can not do without the help of doctors.
Useful advice
Relate to what is happening a little easier, because not every of our steps responds in the future.