Sometimes it is much easier to break off a failed relationship than to survive the months of separation following the breakup and set yourself up for a new romantic adventure. Even if a woman clearly realizes that the union with a man was unpromising, and he himself - to put it mildly, not a living picture of her cherished dreams, getting rid of obsessive self-critical thoughts and baseless complexes of a “loner” can be incredibly difficult. The situation when the initiator of the gap is a man, and at all capable of driving into the deepest depression.
Instruction manual
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Alas, neither the advice of a caring girlfriend, nor even a busy work schedule can dispel this veil of moral self-torture. But there are several sure ways that will help to quickly drive away unnecessary memories and open up new relationships.
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Put the negativity out.
Unleash and exit negative emotions. Cry, scream, complain to friends and family. You cannot close the fountain of negativity and despair within yourself, otherwise you run the risk of securing a long time with depression in your world of shattered hopes. Find an object to which you can switch all your attention (for example, get a pretty pet).
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Let go of love and tune in to a new feeling.
Call your imagination to help. Mentally draw your offender, detailing his negative aspects. You can imagine him an insignificant and miserable person with a mass of terrible vices. Now ask yourself, how could you love such an unworthy creature? Tear this unsuccessful page from your life and open a blank sheet for a real fairy tale, which will be presented to you by a new young man.
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Write on the sheet all aspects of the pros and cons of your break.
Try to analyze the situation and honestly determine for yourself what was right and what was not in your relationship. Each "bare" flaw will help prevent the same mistakes in the future. The gained experience will be the key to your wisdom and will teach you to model the situation.
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Spend the weekend to good use.
Gather a company of interesting and nice people for the purpose of a joint trip to the cinema, theater or cafe. Perhaps fate is preparing a new acquaintance for you. The longer you stay at home, the more intrusive and painful your thoughts will become, so do not lock yourself in the apartment, but let close people help you.
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Experiment.
Finally, do what you always wanted, but could not do because of the disapproval of your former companion: do an extravagant hairstyle, buy an expensive outrageous thing, go on a long-awaited journey.
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Close the door.
In a literal and not literal sense. Block him all the paths of a hypothetical return. Even if he begs and begs for another attempt or offers to remain friends, do not succumb to the weakness provoked by nostalgic memories of past pleasant moments. You do not need the illusion of happiness, you need freedom and a happy future without a traitor.