Feelings and mind - which is more important? This question has always occupied people. In support of what to make life choices: on the heart or on the head? And the answer is simple, and it is on the surface: both feelings and reason are equally important. It is necessary to listen to them equally.
Feelings and mind. I want and need
If a person listens exclusively to the mind, he risks suppressing his feelings, unlearning how to feel, losing his intuition. Such a person is forced to live in the grip of "must" and "right." He begins to make the same demands on others, condemn them and punish them for the “excess” of feelings that he himself is deprived of.
If a person listens only to his feelings, he runs the risk of being captured by his passions, getting lost in his desires, and ceasing to distinguish between “want” and “need”. Blind following of feelings leads to the fact that a person indulges himself. And it’s very difficult to regain will.
Some people choose to rely on the mind, and listen to their feelings - as a guide. A person has an ulterior motive for craving for something, not without reason sympathizes with someone or avoids someone. There is always a reason and purpose for this. Before making decisions, it is important to understand the reason and purpose of your drives.
Other people consider their feelings more important, and use their minds as a guide. They evaluate how not to do stupidity and not lose the ground under your feet, following your desires.
However, the difference between the first and second path is not significant. Not so important, primary feelings or reason. It is important that they are balanced.
How to find a balance between feelings and reason?
When you are faced with the choice between your “want” and “need”, do not allow yourself to make hasty decisions or draw hasty conclusions. Stop and watch the pendulum inside you.
Do not try to drown out either the senses or the mind. Listen to yourself, focus. Live, breathe, watch. The pendulum continues to swing, but it is very important not to push it! On the contrary, try to slow down the swing with each movement. Keep watching.
At that moment, when the pendulum almost stopped swinging between “I want” and “I need”, the easiest and most correct solutions come. Know how to wait, and perhaps the situation will resolve itself.