The word responsibility for many people is associated with something heavy, oppressive and unpleasant. No wonder there are such word forms as “the burden of responsibility”, “the burden of responsibility”. Repulsive, isn't it? And if you look at it from the perspective of opportunities?
A good example. Vasya made a decision (made a choice) to take a loan and invest in a business that, according to his forecasts, would help him get rich quick. If the idea succeeds, Vasya is glad and proud of his achievement, boasts of his mind and enterprise. And if not, everyone but this is to blame: a sudden crisis, supplier, accountant.. This is an escape from responsibility for one’s choice. After all, you have to admit that he laughed, and this is such a shame. That's how we live.
Choice and responsibility always go hand in hand. Why complain to friends about a husband who beats, because you live with him. Why blame the freak-boss, because you choose to work for him.
"I feel bad when I’ll be let out, when it’s over, who will help me get out of this unpleasant state?" Seeking a solution in the outside world is an initially losing idea. This attitude to your life, unfortunately, exacerbates your situation and will not bring any solution.
A person who is not responsible for what is happening in his life, for his choice, argues something like this:
“My thoughts torment me.” How can thoughts torment you if you think them? You torture yourself. This is your choice.
- "It shakes me." What is shaking you? Something or someone comes straight on schedule and shakes? Maybe you shake yourself with your own thoughts? This is your choice.
- "He pissed me off and I got nervous." No one can piss you off if you don't want to. Nervous is your choice.
- "My condition does not allow me to live normally." Any state man organizes for himself, it does not appear independently from nowhere. This is also your choice (organic pathologies do not count).
Escape from responsibility "is seen" in the words of a person who blames the blame for everything that happens to him and to anyone, but not to himself.
The choice. Think about this word. YOU CAN CHOOSE. Live the way you want, honestly living your ups and downs. Bad experience is also experience without knowing grief, how to understand what joy is?
And if now you are sitting in a puddle, then this is only your doing. Sitting in it is a choice, getting up and going is the same.
All you do and think about are all your own decisions. Everything that you do not think about is also your choice. Recognizing this, you take responsibility for your life. And then the picture appears in a different light: I myself sat in this puddle, which means that I myself can leave it. Or I will decide to stay in it and continue to blame the whole world for being wet and cold.