Surely many have heard the expression "water does not flow under a lying stone." But how to understand if a man is a stone and does he pull to the very bottom?
A man undoubtedly affects the woman’s life, her further development, the formation of her goals and their further achievement. Since we live in a time when a woman most often does not want to be the shadow of her man, but strives to become successful, independent, and also grow and develop as a person, the relationship between a man and a woman has become different. Now, not only a woman should support her man in everything. This has become the responsibility of both partners. But do all men cope with this duty? And how to understand that a man is pulling to the bottom?
Signs of a stone man
There are a number of signs by which you can identify a man pulling to the bottom:
- The lack of ambition in the man himself. He does not want to develop in his profession, to move up the career ladder, to earn more money. He does not have his hobbies. His life: work - sofa - sleep - work. He can justify this by saying that everyone is happy with him, that in order to get a good position, you need connections, that "others live worse" and so on. “My husband has been working as a cable man for 10 years for a salary of 15, 000 rubles a month, ” says Olga, 31 years old. “I earn almost 2 times more! He had the opportunity to get a cable man in another company with a salary of 25, 000 rubles a month, but for he would have to finish this special course. But he refused. He’s happy with everything! ”
- Constant attempts to demotivate your woman. Every time a woman tries to start something new, a man will constantly slow her down, saying that it is difficult, that she will not succeed, that it is risky or a waste of time and money. “When I was going to enter the magistracy on the budget and preparing for the exams, my boyfriend always told me that there is too much competition and you can only enter for a bribe, ” recalls Irina, 23 years old. “The more he said this, the less I believed in your own strength."
- Indifference to the goals and dreams of his woman. Such men do not take their women seriously, and their dreams are considered stupid. “I inherited a large sum of money and wanted to spend it on opening my own studio. But my husband made a scandal, saying that nothing works out, and I just lose all the money, ” recalls Elena, 28 years old. “As a result, I bought an expensive car that I don’t even ride."
- The constant search for shortcomings in women. When a man constantly criticizes, he lowers the self-esteem of his partner. As a result, her desire to develop and move forward disappears. “I used to knit things on order. Once I accepted a large order and forgot to prepay, ” says Olesya, 34 years old. “As a result, I spent a lot of money on yarn and accessories, and the client was gone. I was at a loss, but instead of support "I learned a lot about my husband about myself and my brains. Then I still sold the products and beat off the money, but there was an unpleasant aftertaste"
- He is outraged by the achievements of others. The success of other people makes him irritated and angry. “I was an ordinary seller in a clothing store, ” recalls Anna, 22 years old. “A year ago I was promoted to manager, I decided to make friends and celebrate this event. When I announced what we were going for, my man made a very rude and unpleasant joke "Both I and my friends were in shock. I think it was envy."
- He takes all the time and attention to himself. It is worth starting to do something, as a man immediately has a thousand questions and instructions to the woman. He is trying with all his might to turn his attention to himself, and sometimes he indicates that the wife is obliged to serve her husband. “I decided to go dancing and agreed with my husband that he would sit with his children 3 times a week in the evening, ” says Maria. “But each time before the class, my husband suddenly had some very important things to do at work, as a result of which I had to stay with the kids. "