Relations between people is a kind of mystery. But there are also relationships with oneself. In my opinion, this is an even more incomprehensible secret. It has been repeatedly noted that the better a person is "friends" with himself, the better he will succeed. But it turns out that loving yourself is not so easy. Only 20% of modern people do this. So how do you still love yourself for who you are?
Instruction manual
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There is an illusion in the world around us that we live with other people. In fact, everything is not as it seems. Each person lives with himself: "I was born", "I got married" and so on. On how we relate to ourselves, our whole life and all existing environment depends. If something does not suit you, then you can easily escape from it, but if you try to escape from yourself, you get some kind of chaos, which in the future leads to serious problems and complications. And so that these problems do not exist, it is necessary to learn how to build comfortable relationships with yourself, as you do with other people. The first thing you should realize is that you have to live with yourself as you are, all your future life.
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Now we should free ourselves from the "bad" past. Indeed, it is in many cases that it causes low self-esteem and self-hatred. Often the parents are guilty, who throughout their childhood criticized their child. Remember, parents, that all childhood injuries remain with the child for the rest of his life. Do not spoil the future for your children.
So, to get rid of the remnants of the past, which gnaws at you to this day, you need to use some kind of training, which is used by many psychologists. Remember all the bad things that happened in your life and put them in a basket, which you will later mercilessly throw out of your head. If it is difficult for you to do this exercise orally, then write down everything on paper, mentally release it, burn it and throw it into the wind. Remember that self-criticism is a normal occurrence, but do not forget about your merits, which are probably many.
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A rare woman is 100% satisfied with herself. I don’t like one nose, the other is crazy because of a pimple on my face. Each finds in its appearance at least some flaw. And this is not good. Basically, this problem comes from the beauty patterns that fashion, television, and various magazines have imposed on us. You can fix external flaws, but nothing will change in your head from this. And this means that the problem will continue to live with us, even if outwardly everything will be very good. Stop being irresponsible to yourself! This will help you in building a comfortable relationship with yourself.
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Insecure people blame all their problems on the fact that they are not happy with themselves. That is, if it were not for their flaws, then everything in their life would be good and beautiful. And they do all this instead of taking yes and correcting, for example, their figure. This is better than allegedly suffering from the fact that something is wrong. Need to take and do. Look deep into problems, not swim to the surface.
Let’s try to better imagine that all your problems have disappeared and you have become the one you have been dreaming of for so long. What will change? Nothing. This is precisely how one can understand that everything that you invented is just an invention and nothing more. After all, your flaws do not in the least prevent you from doing what you want and living as you wish.
You can also try one exercise. Speak, standing in front of the mirror, compliments of that part of the body that does not suit you. And over time, you will feel obvious changes. And notice that people began to treat you differently. But all is not due to the fact that the defect has disappeared. Not. He remained in place, but only then you stopped noticing him and fell in love with yourself as a person as you are. You have become more self-sufficient.
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Do not go in cycles in beauty standards. Love your appearance as it is. Imagine that your type of figure is the most popular. Make your own benchmark for yourself. Appearance will, you can say, work for you only when you understand how unique you are and are not like others. You live in your own world, which is made by you. As you wish, it will be so. Love yourself, and then people will reach for you! Good luck