The beginning of a relationship between a man and a woman is accompanied by pleasant emotions and feelings: butterflies “fly” in the stomach, the whole world is seen as beautiful, the partner is perfect, and it seems that it will always be so. But gradually the euphoria comes to naught, gray days come, and behind them the first reproaches and quarrels.
When the first quarrels and frictions arise, many decide that they made a mistake in their choice or that love has passed and are in a hurry to part. But in vain. Because love has not even begun. For a real feeling of love to be born between two people, it takes a lot of time and joint work to overcome conflicts, without which the growth of relations is simply impossible. Psychologists distinguish 7 stages of the development of a love union:
- The first stage is a bouquet and candy period in which lovers voluntarily put on pink glasses, and it seems that this will continue forever. As a result of research, it was revealed that the state of love is accompanied by a change in the hormonal background, which explains the comprehensive state of euphoria. At such a moment, a person becomes dull in the literal sense of the word: he does not see reality. Rather, he sees, but greatly embellished.
- The second stage is characterized by the fact that the glasses begin to fade, and the partner does not seem so ideal anymore. Its shortcomings become more apparent, crazy sex bothers 10 times a day, passions subside. Partners no longer strive to be 100% merged with each other. This is a moment of satiety. Hormonal background is normal.
- The maximum distance from the partner, his rejection. Often at this stage, people already live together, and living together is one of the topics for conflict. Lovers forget about the positive sides of each other and, having become acquainted with the shortcomings of a partner, now concentrate only on them. This level is considered decisive - those who are unable to compromise, unwilling to concede will necessarily part. If a couple manages to go through this period, then their relationship will reach a different, higher level.
- In the fourth stage, the couple learns tolerance, wisdom, the ability to accept another as he is, to forgive insults. Mutual respect is born here. Conflicts and quarrels are still present, but their severity decreases and the number decreases.
- Total trust and service to each other: here comes the spiritual rapprochement of people, all external masks are removed and self-disclosure to the partner takes place. Gratitude, a desire to please and please characterize this period.
- By this time, people have come a long way, have a lot of joint experience, they know each other as flaky. Friendship is born here. At this level it is already difficult to destroy such an alliance.
- And the last level - in fact, is the birth of love. Partners become relatives, like-minded people, feeling each other for miles and understanding at a glance. There is no room for doubts about a loved one, jealousy and deceit. A man and a woman become value to each other simply for what is in this world.