For a long time in our country, working with a psychologist was considered something out of the ordinary. Many people still think that all problems can be solved independently, and communication with specialists is a waste of time and money. And for some, there is a danger that loved ones and friends may begin to look at you askance. What is the “danger” when referring to a psychologist?
First of all, it should be understood that a psychologist is a person who can really help to deal with those vital questions for which you can’t find the answer on your own, bringing yourself to a state of neurosis.
It seems to some that, having opened up to a stranger, he will become vulnerable and unprotected, and, having received the necessary recommendations, he will not be able to fulfill them and will become even worse. For some, a psychologist is a person who "gets into the head" and makes a diagnosis. But the psychologist is not a psychiatrist and he does not make diagnoses. And any normal person who needs the look and advice of a professional, and not “mentally ill, ” as some people think, can turn to a specialist for help.
Knowing yourself, discovering your inner potential, getting rid of fears, addictions and finding options for solving complex life problems - this is what a psychologist will help you with. So what “danger" lies in wait for that decisive person who goes to see a psychologist? And it is that after working with a specialist, your life will begin to change. And it will be a completely new, unfamiliar experience that will come as a result of awareness of your problems. It would seem funny after all. But no. For so many people, such changes are similar to fear.
After working with a psychologist, people who, it seemed to you, were friends for you, but in reality only interfered with your realization, underestimated your self-esteem and were envious of you or “put the wheels in wheels” in every possible way. You will notice that you no longer enjoy supporting empty talk, spreading gossip, or speaking negatively about people you might not even know close.
You will want to receive joy from life, be more in the circle of like-minded people, look for new acquaintances and expand your horizons. You can hear from loved ones that “something is wrong” with you, although, in fact, everything is right with you and everything is right. It’s just that you no longer depend on the opinions of people who are uninteresting to you or whom you used for your purposes, hiding behind an imaginary friendship.
Perhaps you will finally realize that working on an unloved job no longer has any strength. And this can be dangerous for those who are not ready to change something in their lives, and only went to a psychologist to take responsibility for everything and accept your negative emotions, feelings, without forcing you to act and radically change something something in life. In this case, the psychologist will be a waste of time and money for you.
If you came to a specialist really for help, with full responsibility for your actions, and he helped you sort out your experiences, after which you decided to quit your favorite job and start a new life, then there is no danger for you, and you got what they wanted.
If you turned to a specialist for help in order to build relationships with a partner or loved ones, the danger is that your relationship may end completely and not get better. If you clearly see that you are dependent on a partner or relatives, that this dependence destroys you, you will not want to continue or develop such a relationship. As a result, you may even be accused of the fact that if you did not go to a psychologist, everything would be fine, and now everything has become bad. But it became bad for others, not for you. You will become ready for new, vibrant, full-fledged relationships and a normal life without conflicts and constant quarrels and showdowns.
Turning to a psychologist really carries a "danger", but only for those who are looking for simple ways to resolve any issues and are not really going to change anything in their lives.