Templates and stereotypes can ruin our privacy. Imposed by parents from childhood, they are so well eaten into the subconscious that it is sometimes difficult to get rid of them. The main thing, before applying them, is to listen to your second half and come to a common conclusion, respecting each other's opinions.
In our time of gender equality, we are used to thinking that any problem is paired - it is the fault of both. But psychologists have long proved that this is not so.
"Parents wish us only good"
As a rule, everyone thinks so. And if the mother did not like something in the behavior of the spouse of her child, this is undoubtedly an occasion to be wary of herself. But it will be even better to sort things out, because mom saw that insidious character trait in your loved one that you have not noticed for so long. And if you think about, whose discontent spills over your partner? Yours or mom's?
"In a good pair there is no word I, there is only us"
And this will be one of the biggest mistakes in your life. Putting aside your own needs for the sake of a loved one, you run the risk of being overwhelmed over time. Any love has the ability to pass, and its place is occupied by awareness of reality. It is then that a person understands that he does not have his own social life other than worries about his beloved. And if problems arise in such relationships, then there will be no tantrums about the best years of life given, about ingratitude for all the good and so on.
“The couple’s financial budget must be shared”
This is not such a big need, as is commonly believed. Pocket money has not yet been canceled, so the best option would be to divide all the money earned into mine, yours and ours. So everyone in the pair will have a little more financial freedom, which will make it possible to please each other with pleasant surprises.
“Opposites attract”
How to raise a common child? To go to the sea or to visit distant relatives? Make repairs in the apartment or buy new furniture? Various household little things build the foundation of your relationship. And if a couple does not have at least some common views and interests, it will not last long.
"Woman must"
It is driven into every female head from the diaper. "Well, you are a girl, behave more modestly; in your years I already raised children and looked after my husband; how can a woman not know this?" Undoubtedly, almost every woman heard this. Due to this, in the minds of some women the image of the ideal housewife is formed, on which the whole family rests. And if in the future she will not be able to meet him, then the beloved man will have disappointment in her, which may negatively affect further relations.
If there are sincere feelings in a pair, then love will conquer everything. The main thing is to remember that the willingness to listen to a partner and compromise is the key to a long and happy life together.