Nowadays, you can meet many lonely people. Some silently hide their misfortune, while others accuse others of their loneliness of the circumstances.
The main reasons for loneliness:
1. The separation or estrangement of significant people.
When parents leave their child in childhood or leave them alone for a long time, a feeling of abandonment and abandonment arises. Such situations in the future will lead to difficulties in establishing social contacts, as there will be a fear from the past to be once again abandoned.
2. Lack of acceptance by others.
If close people are nearby, then another reason may be lack of acceptance of personality. This can happen both in the family (where the parents do not perceive the characteristics of the child) and in society (where the personality is not perceived by the others for some reason). Such situations can cause a feeling of fear of establishing new social contacts, because there is a fear that once again the society will not be able to accept the individual characteristics of the person.
3. Low self-esteem.
When there is no self-confidence, it seems that other people are treated without admiration. There is a feeling of fear, because in which case pride will suffer, and once again fears of personal imperfection will be confirmed. An amazing paradox is that a person with a low self-esteem will always see the negative from the people around him.
4. Fear of betrayal.
Many loners are afraid of betrayal by others and believe that it is better to keep yourself away from the outside world. Thus, the personality closes in itself and creates a protective wall, from which it itself suffers.
5. The desire to receive, not give.
Many require a certain attitude and attention, but do not want to give anything in return. As a result, even if he meets someone who will do everything for the relationship, the couple may break up over time, since living without reciprocity is very difficult. This is typical of people who are used to living primarily for themselves.
6. The manifestation of creative nature.
Loneliness is peculiar precisely to creative people who live in their own world. Sometimes it is difficult for them to let someone into their lives, as they are too individual. Despite the creative implementation, this is not always a positive factor for establishing social contacts.
How to get out of the vicious circle of loneliness?
The problem of loneliness is common and many find it difficult to cope on their own. You can contact a psychologist, attend personal growth trainings, read books on relevant topics yourself. First of all, remember that solving problems depends only on our desire and efforts.