Throughout life, a sense of shame visits every person many times. And if for some people this feeling is fleeting and quickly forgotten, then for others it becomes obsessive and oppressive. The constant presence of shame prevents a person from fully developing, building relationships with people around him, and even living a normal life. What role does shame play in the human psyche?
When a person feels a constant shame for his actions, thoughts or actions, there is a substitution of personality. Shame plays a decisive role in the psychological perception of reality, thereby a person becomes unsure of himself. Such a person often does not know what he really wants and even perceives his emotions inadequately.
Inability to express one’s feelings and emotions, for which one is “naturally” ashamed, leads to social isolation of a person. Such a person is not able to establish relations with the outside world, both in his personal life and at work. The feeling of shame cannot become all-consuming at one moment, such a psychological problem leads a story from childhood.
Parents, with the help of shame, strive to make their child obedient, without considering the consequences of such education. A small person becomes ashamed of poor grades and behavior, and even for their illnesses, because they upset their parents. Over time, a sense of shame becomes necessary and quite familiar to the child. Parents replace the love and understanding necessary for children with a constant sense of shame. The child begins to perceive parental love only through the prism of modesty. After all, adults stop scolding for pranks, only after bashful repentance.
Passing into adulthood, this feeling carries within it a destructive energy on a person’s personality. A sense of shame prevents a person from being himself, any manifestations of life are rejected and criticized, leading to a dead end. The human psyche for full functioning requires all feelings, and shame, including. A fleeting sense of shame protects and supports the human psyche. That is why it is so difficult to be on the verge of one-time and constant shame.
In order to live in harmony with oneself and the surrounding reality, a person needs to know and correctly perceive all the features of his psyche. Awareness of the main aspects of life for which it is a shame, and the correct work to eliminate them will help to harmoniously develop and feel like a full member of society.