Not so long ago, on posters from the time of the USSR, men could still be seen with a hammer in their hands. Colorful inscriptions “Love labor” and “Good to have skillful hands” flaunted at every step. Of course, they didn’t cook borsch, but everyone had to be able to hammer a nail. Now, from numerous advertising brochures, a metrosexual is looking at us with manicure and a perfect tan. And he would rather tell you in which salon it is better to make a haircut than explain why this hammer is needed.
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Looking at this trend, a reasonable question arises for women: “Have men always been so independent in everyday life? After all, if once they were different, then there is little hope that they can still change again? And that means "My beloved unshaven gouging will begin to iron his shirts on his own and will finally repair the crane."
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In men, as in women we have, the first skills of independence and attitude to everyday life began to take shape in childhood. The difference between the sexes is only that the girls mainly took the example from the mother, men from the father. And here everything seems to be logical and should work out well. Girls learn the intricacies of cooking, boys learn how to fasten a socket. To understand why, nevertheless, most future wives have learned how to cook stuffed fish, and most men do not know how to fix the crane mentioned above, it is worth turning to the numbers.
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The statistics is inexorable and confirms that there are more early divorces in our country than strong marriages. This means that there are also more children who see fathers at most once a week. With whom, then, would you order the former boys, and now the adult men, to take an example to follow? Who can learn to hammer the same nail? No answer. There is only the total non-independence of men in everyday life.
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Have you ever wondered why women in general grasp the basics of housekeeping much faster than men? The answer lies in instincts. And more precisely - in the maternal instinct. He is so strong in a forming woman that at the genetic level she feels all the secrets of washing, cleaning and cooking. She knows very well that someday she will become a mother herself, and her little miracle will not be able to do without her, he will need to be fed, washed the baby's diapers, and looked after him. The problems begin when you have to look after a miracle weighing 80 pounds, which sleeps in your bed. Just look, you are over thirty already, and your mothers are still preparing you ten main dishes at a time, worrying that with this work schedule you eat on the fly, and in general, "who goes to his restaurant from his mother?"
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Remember that men do not grow up; they just have toys that change. In their souls they are eternal children. Be condescending to their domestic non-self-reliance if this is not critical. If not, remember: re-educating an adult is practically impossible. True, you can try a creative approach and add a gaming moment. If in doubt about the method, remember how the children love it. For example, you can decorate a laundry basket with the words “dirty things live here” or “I’m your sock, I also want not to be parted with my soulmate”. Having shown imagination, you can cope with the everyday problem of your man.
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Often we ourselves too take care of our loved ones and protect them from washing dishes and other things, playing the role of a caring mother, not a wife. Do not do so. Perhaps your man is not so independent, but simply follows the path of least resistance. Give him the opportunity to prove himself in everyday life, and maybe he will pleasantly surprise you.
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If, after all, nothing helps, and your chosen one avoids any household chores and dumps all the housework on you, most likely you will see a selfish, immature person. It’s impossible to redo it. Or reconcile, or break off such a relationship. Do not forget that part of the day you are still a princess, not a Cinderella. And even ponies die from work. Appreciate yourself and sometimes forgive the strong sex of his little weaknesses. He forgives you yours. In a relationship without humor is difficult. Never blame your man for his lack of independence in the tone of a strict teacher who wants to restrain a ridiculous student. Respect his lifestyle and approach to everyday life.