Leaving conflicts without resolution, in other words, avoiding them, is not an effective strategy in interpersonal relations. Any conflict requires a solution, and one of the most effective ways to resolve it is a compromise.
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In the most general sense, compromise is a way of resolving a conflict situation through the provision of mutual concessions. In this strategy for resolving the conflict, unlike the others, none of the parties is the winner, but none is the loss. Often, in order to maintain relations with people, it is this form of way out of the conflict that is most effective.
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When the points of view of the parties are completely different, but relations with the enemy in the conflict are very significant, a compromise is the best solution. Also, a compromise as a way to resolve a conflict situation is applicable if the motives and goals of the opponents basically coincide and certain life principles and personal values are not affected. Thus, it is more expedient to solve small domestic and business conflicts precisely with the help of mutual concessions.
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The huge advantage of compromise as a way to resolve the conflict is that the parties comply with the agreement, as they voluntarily come to its resolution. That is, the problem has indeed been eliminated, and both sides remain partially satisfied. Although for the sake of a joke they sometimes say that a compromise is a situation where the problem is solved and the goal is achieved, but everyone is dissatisfied, since the requirements of either side are not completely satisfied.
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In order to arrive at an optimal solution to the conflict, participation and the opportunity to sacrifice something from each side are important. To demand any concessions without offering them for their part is not a compromise. We need to find a solution that would be beneficial to both parties. First you need to evaluate what you can sacrifice for your part, and then figure out what you would like to get from the second participant in the conflict. It is advisable to put yourself in the place of the opposite side in order to appreciate the honesty of such a decision.
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In seeking a compromise, do not take the second participant in the conflict as an adversary or rival. Ultimatums, pressure, the desire to receive only personal gain will lead to a breakdown in relations, even if these relations are more important for your opponent than for you. It must be remembered that the goal of this strategy is to achieve common benefits.
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For example, a spouse’s popular debate about how to spend a weekend (a husband wants to go with friends to a sports bar or fishing, and a wife to a theater or restaurant for a romantic dinner) can easily be solved using a compromise strategy. For example, on days of important matches or pre-agreed fishing dates, the wife does not prevent her husband from spending his weekend with friends, and the husband spends the days of theater premieres or certain family dates next to his other half. On the other hand, the husband also does not oppose his wife's meetings with friends, but expects that after a hard day she will meet him with a hot dinner and support him in difficult times. Such a decision can be made on almost any issues.
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It is worth noting that a compromise is not just an exchange of any concessions. It is impossible to evaluate concessions from the parties to the conflict, since the importance of interests and values for each is subjective. It is also not worth sacrificing your interests in order to come to a common decision, not seeing such an attitude from the opposite side. Both parties must be interested in a compromise, otherwise the meaning of such a solution to the conflict is lost.