Everyone needs an individual period to "suffer" parting, and during this time a person experiences the acute phase, the return of hope, the desire to take revenge, and the ease of liberation from a heavy psychological burden.
Instruction manual
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Mitigate the shock. Someone prefers to wait out the most acute and dreary time, eating chocolate and watching soap operas, someone for hours playing Internet toys or surfing YouTube in search of love songs. This is normal, but up to a point. It’s okay if such a period lasts from three days to three weeks. But if it drags on, you need to include willpower and self-esteem: "I'm too good to be so smeared." Depression must mature in order to move to the next phase, when the interest of life awakens, and a person tries to comprehend what happened.
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Give energy output. When parting, the unfortunate lover is inclined to fall into melancholy, hate himself or others, shift the blame for what happened to others. This is also a form of depression, but it needs to be controlled. Suppress negative thoughts, drive them into the subconscious mind is not worth it. If the heart hurts, then we must admit it and feel sorry for ourselves. But at this time it is better to be like yoga, tai chi, qigong. Gymnastics for the body will calm the mind and give "endorphins" - natural hormones of happiness and the best antidepressant. If everything is done correctly, then one day after training, the question arises in my head: "Why am I actually killing him like that?" Life is too good for tears!
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Go out to the people. Love gives a feeling of emotional comfort, the ability to speak your feelings, your inner world. Many lovers are so obsessed with each other that they lose friends. And after parting, they end up in a vacuum. Therefore, it will be useful to focus on who needs your help, do charity work, enroll in volunteers. Warm emotions, tenderness, gratitude will help to cope with a feeling of loneliness. And you can get the usual norm of communication in a new company. It will be very useful to master a new hobby, study languages, and finally make your own website. A new circle of acquaintances and interests will supplant memories of a former friend.
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Put everything upside down. A month and a half after parting (and someone earlier) should do the following exercise: write in the column all the negative that brought the collapse of love, and next - make positive conclusions. For example, “I felt lonely for two weeks” - “But now I’m a level 80 elf, I reviewed all the melodramas and threw all the trash out of my room.” “He betrayed me” - “He gave me an experience that will save me from a more dangerous situation.” We do not suspect that we are gaining from parting.
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Understand what is happening to you. Love longing is akin to poisoning. If you get sick and continue to eat poisoned mushrooms, a fatal outcome is possible. It is much smarter to throw out mushrooms, take a sorbent that draws toxins from the body and lay down. So it is with a sense of revenge. It destroys the mind and soul.
note
If depression does not stop, moreover, heart problems begin, headaches, insomnia, you need to go to a neurologist. A mild sedative, massage, and even a cosmetologist are excellent therapeutic agents.
Useful advice
Memory is things. During the acute period of longing, it’s worth removing everything that reminds of the former. Want to cry in a sweater that he forgot a month ago? Better to vacuum.