Modesty cannot be called a negative trait of character, however in youth it often interferes with meeting and making friends. Young men suffer especially because of this feature, since it is society that prescribes them to dominate relations. Defeating modesty is quite difficult, but you can learn how to make the right impression on a girl.
Instruction manual
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Always say hello first and smile at the object of sympathy. A smile makes your face pleasant and open. Humble and shy people often look sullen or arrogant just because they cannot naturally smile.
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When talking with a girl, do not look down. If you can maintain eye contact, you will create the impression of an open and by no means timid young man. In addition, the girl will immediately understand that you feel sympathy for her. To overcome the fear of eye contact, work with someone from your friends or family.
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Watch your gestures, facial expressions, posture, speech. When training in front of the mirror, get rid of everything that indicates your shyness: stop slouching, straighten your shoulders, speak confidently and quite loudly.
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Do not be afraid to tell the girl about your successes. So that this does not look like boasting, talk about achievements only to the place. For example, when she needs help or advice - if you are strong in the right field, why not report it?
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Improve your self-esteem with affirmations. This is a method similar to auto-suggestion. Its essence is to surround yourself with positive thoughts that contribute to achieving the desired result. Compose affirmations in the present tense, in the affirmative firm, without using the particle “not” and the words “no”, “never”, “stopped”, “got rid”. If you do not follow this rule, affirmations will lead to negative results. For example, “I freely communicate with girls, I’m a relaxed person” - the right affirmations, “I’m not shy, I stopped embarrassing with the girls” - wrong.
Useful advice
Life experience best helps overcome modesty. The more often you find yourself in situations in which your shyness is manifested, the faster you will get used to communicating with the opposite sex and will feel freer. It's like hardening - the more you dive into cold water, the sooner it stops seeming icy.