Love, unfortunately, does not always last forever. It would seem that everything is mutual, brings joy and happiness. But people are breaking up. And it is so incredibly difficult to forget a person, to cope with a feeling of longing and loneliness. Suffering brings invaluable spiritual experience, but sometimes it destroys a person from the inside. How to avoid this and learn to live without a loved one?
Instruction manual
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Understand your feelings, evaluate your attitude to the partner. What are you experiencing? Love or a sense of ownership, fear of loneliness, fear of emptiness, inability to live one's own life and the desire to live someone else's? Find the strength in yourself to admit your mistakes and shortcomings. Stop blaming others and yourself for what happened. You suffer - it means that your problems are personally hidden in this.
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Work through the situation. Describe your love story on a piece of paper and describe the feelings that bring you suffering. Sign below "It was in my life." Psychologists advise tearing and discarding this sheet of paper.
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On the second sheet, write down your thoughts on how you feel, what qualities you lack to become strong, independent and happy. Save this sheet, it will help you maintain strength in yourself.
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You understand yourself, put the necessary points and accents in your feelings and feelings. It's time to stop and stop practicing samoyed. Set another goal - to heal mental wounds.
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Stop feeling sorry for yourself, talk about your suffering and pain with your friends. Do not lock yourself in four walls, walk more, talk with friends, do something interesting for you, go to exhibitions, to cinema, theaters, read books. In general, rejoice every new day. Learn to experience a sense of happiness from the most mundane things. Be proud of your, albeit small victories at work, in your studies.
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Avoid meeting and talking with your ex-lover. Erase, if necessary, his phone numbers, email addresses.
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Accustom yourself to the thought that this love is not the only one. If this person has been in your life, if you are suffering now, it means that fate taught a lesson to learn something important and necessary for the future from it. And if you draw the right conclusions, perhaps tomorrow you will meet your new love and be happy.