Unfortunately, vivid feelings are by no means eternal - they are able to quickly light up and fade over time. And it’s painful enough to realize that all emotions have long been in the past, and in everyday life there are no joyfully exciting moments associated with love. But modern psychologists are convinced that feelings can be returned, if you work a little on this. Moreover, experts even convince that love is reborn in much brighter manifestations than before.
Instruction manual
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First of all, realize that your problem is extremely common. Indeed, practically no couple leave the fading of feelings. So if suddenly the person whom you idolized begins to violently annoy in everyday life, calm down and try to realize that this condition is only a temporary phenomenon. And of course, it will pass.
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Take a detailed analysis: what do you dislike most about living together? Perhaps tired of the routine and standard rituals that are present in everyday life every day? So change everything for at least one day - have dinner in a restaurant, play checkers together, go to a dance. So you will get rid of habits, which hid feelings.
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Perhaps it’s worth talking - not to sort things out routinely, reaching the scandal, but mentally and accurately. For example, you can just say that you would be scared to at least once repeat a romantic evening from the time of your first dates.
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Psychologists insist that changing something in life is simply necessary. Even when it comes to sex. After all, routine sex is an unpleasant thing. So why not finally step over yourself and try to surprise your partner? Such things definitely revive the old ardor.
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But feelings are dulled not only because of habitual sex and life. It may be that in the course of family life it turned out that you and your husband have practically nothing in common, except, of course, at home and children. And friends, and habits, and hobbies, and professions are different - what can you do? Psychologists urge artificially to create common interests. Read the same book, discussing it, buy a dog, go fishing. What if it “drags on” and you both become avid dog lovers or fishermen?
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And people are brought together by difficulties and common enemies. As difficulties, you can plan the construction of a country house, but it’s better not to have common, as well as individual, enemies.
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In the end, just remember the times when your partner caused you complete delight. Try to remember those feelings, thoughts, words. And you will understand that you can’t imagine life without this person.