Often circumstances force a woman to raise a son without a father. There are important points that you need to consider in everyday communication in order for your son to grow into a man whom you will be proud of.
The scourge of time and the real misfortune of modern Russian society are single-parent families. The reasons are very diverse. Most often, for very serious reasons, many families break up. The woman is left alone and forced to raise a son without a father.
Where do single-parent families come from?
A woman believes that she is better alone than with an indignant husband. She herself can raise, learn and feed a child.
This is sometimes true. An accomplished business woman who does not want to tolerate a weak man nearby can not only feed and educate. Many ladies are able to provide a very comfortable life for themselves and their child.
Or living together with an alcoholic and a parasite turns family life into hell. To save herself and children from nightmare scenes, to protect loved ones, a woman decides to divorce.
Often a woman is abandoned against her will. It remains alone with the child in her arms, often without a livelihood.
How many people parted, so many reasons for the appearance of single-parent families. More and more mothers give birth to children "for themselves", deliberately avoiding marriage.
Single mom is not alone if she is mom
Whatever the financial situation in an incomplete family, no matter what tragedy it may have experienced, the most important thing to remember is that you are not alone. Next to you is a man. Even if he is two or four years old.
Under no circumstances should you pull the boy in public, shout at him. In private, you will tell him everything you think about his behavior. Only in private. Do not let him humiliate himself or anyone else. Be it a teacher, principal, or kindergarten teacher.
Unless, of course, you are faced with the task of raising a man, and not of a downtrodden, insecure person with low self-esteem. Be able to politely, but firmly enough to make it clear that you have listened to complaints and take action, but only you have the right to punish the child if you consider it necessary.
There is no one to protect the little man besides you.
Born a man - be it, regardless of age
From a very young age, the boy must understand that he is an assistant, hope and support. But how can he feel strong and adult if his mother rushes to put on socks and lace up his sneakers before he does it.
Let the son carry something from purchases on the way from the store. Put in the package what he can do. He must firmly set aside in his head that it is not worth a man to go light if a woman carries bags.
If your son has forgotten his sportswear for a physical education lesson, replaceable shoes, an album, do not remind him of this. Let yourself overcome the consequences of forgetfulness. Ask how he felt sitting on the bench when the children were running on physical education? Or was he pleased with the reprimand from the school teacher? The next day he will be more collected.
It is important from the first school days to accustom the son to independent fees. Your life will become easier at times, and the boy will get used to being responsible for his mistakes and not allowing them.