In our country, the problem of domestic violence is particularly acute. This is not so much a family phenomenon as a social, cultural one. And to fight it at the level of an individual family is quite difficult, but possible.
Marital Violence
“Beats, then loves, ” reads a rather popular Russian proverb today. As you know, she is talking about a man who is allowed from time to time to demonstrate his beloved feelings of physical violence. Is it absurd? Yes. Works? Yes! And this is amazing
.How to deal with such unofficially permitted violence? The answer is simple: do not accept it.
One rule should be clarified once and for all: if a man allowed himself to raise his hand at a woman at least once, then he should be avoided. Violence from a man (or less commonly) develops in a spiral. This is a scientific fact. A man who can strike will always carry a danger for women. There is, of course, a provocative moment. Often this type of men attracts a certain character of women. This happens unconsciously, but these couples live in symbiosis. Often a woman who is beaten gets them herself. But that cannot justify the violence. The man is free to react in a non-violent way. Fighting a man who allowed himself to be abused is necessary by his own departure and statement to the police. But this case has its own saying. In Russia, "Litter cannot be taken out of the hut." This is another problem of Russian society, legalizing beatings in families. However, each has its own head on its shoulders.
Child abuse
“Giving a belt” to a child is a holy thing, isn't it? But think about whether this is an effective method? What does the child learn when he receives a slap in the face for a mistake? Just because violence can solve the problem. It is unlikely that a parent raising a belt wants to achieve this. The child will be hurt, the child, of course, will understand that you were dissatisfied with him, but he will not learn to understand you, he will not become closer to you, he will not see you as a loved one. Talk to him. Only conversation can teach a child not to upset you this way, and make you friends. Moreover, it is important not to forget that insults have the same properties and consequences as strikes. To beat with words is the last thing.