Life presents daily surprises - pleasant and not so - to which we must respond in a timely and correct manner. The order in the soul and thoughts helps to solve problems without stress, calmly and thoughtfully.
Instruction manual
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Create ladders of priority for decision making. Sometimes you have to face the outside world and choose thoughts and actions that affect future life. Relatives can invade this sphere, forcing them to think or act in a certain way. In order not to rush about in the search for the answer to the question of whom to listen to, it is necessary to determine priorities once and for all. To do this, divide life into significant areas. This list may turn out: relations with husband / wife, parenting, housekeeping, appearance, etc.
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For each area, develop a ladder of priorities. In the direction of "parenting" the staircase may look like this: husband, wife, mother. This means that in controversial situations, the husband’s opinion comes first, then the wife’s opinion, and, last but not least, the mother’s. Once established rules will help not to be tormented by the soul when you need to say “no” to someone, including yourself.
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Learn the scale of emotions. There may be different options for the scale, but do it in accordance with personal experiences. Something similar can happen: apathy - fear - resentment - anger - boredom - indifference - curiosity - joy - inspiration - delight. You need to quickly get out of unwanted conditions and stay for a long time in the state that you like.
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Find materials to develop your desired emotions. In literature, art, and other areas of activity, there are people who have the ability to exhibit certain qualities that correspond to the scale of emotions. Look for people who know how to rejoice, to be curious, to overcome grievances, to be inspired and inspire others. Learn how they do it and engage in the development of positive emotions.
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Outline good examples from literature and other art forms. Such a summary will help not to lose heart during periods of testing.
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Eliminate sources of negative influence. If there are people around that make you go down the emotional scale, break off your relationship with them. If this is not possible due to kinship, neutralize their influence. There are two ways to do this. Firstly, by an internal aspiration up the scale of emotions; secondly, concern for these people. They take care of the weak, weak, sick - those who cannot do something on their own. By caring, you become stronger.