A good word, as you know, is nice for a cat. But what kind of word will this be? A real sincere compliment or a flattering remark of a person who does not really know you. Then you’ll think about it, but what does this type really need?
Flattery, according to Ushakov’s explanatory dictionary, is a pleasing praise, a hypocritical admiration for someone, something inspired by selfish motives. The key word is the word "selfish." And flattery is a formidable weapon in skillful hands, or rather on the lips? They flatter most often the bosses; the girl whose attention they want to achieve; unloved relatives, for example, mother-in-law, then she would not look so maliciously at her son-in-law. The motives of flattery to this or another person may be different, but they always have a specific goal: approval of a strict parent, possible promotion or the opportunity to spend a good evening in the company of the most sought after girl. There is an opinion that flattery can be of two main types: coarse and fine. easy to identify. She is from the category of praises, like the expressions: "the greatest of the greatest, " "the most beautiful of the most beautiful, " "the Turkish delight of my heart." Listening to such flattery is not only harmful, but often offensive. And sometimes it's just funny. If you know that you are not the standard model for television, then flattery in the style of “You should only be shown on TV” seems silly and funny. The second type of flattery is more insidious. Subtle flattery - it is ornate, and it is still necessary to try to distinguish it from a sincere compliment. He is a flatterer who requires attentiveness, observation, quick wit and a sense of time. And also full control over your emotions. Otherwise, a seemingly sincere comment may turn into an evil mockery, and everything is gone. Also, flattery can be playful, or sarcastic. If in the first case - this will most likely lead to fun, then in the second it may not end very well. Few people love sarcasm in their turn. There is still on-duty flattery. Well, for example, as in a situation, “everyone does flatter him like that, and I should do the same.” And one more point that you should know about flattery. Her focus. Most often, you send flattery to someone, but flattery to yourself is quite possible. This is even useful when self-esteem has fallen dramatically for some reason. The main thing in this case is not to overdo it and not turn into a narcissistic person, for whom the rest is a gray faceless mass, worthy only to worship your beloved. In fact, according to writers and classics, there is little worse than flattery. Therefore, it is better to focus on sincere compliments. They are honest, come from the heart and really give a person a feeling that they value him.