There are situations when, for some reason, you do not want to answer the asked question. This can be either an unpleasant, tactless topic, or a conversation not with the most pleasant interlocutor, or simply a lack of mood so that others climb into the soul. At the same time, to say that I do not want to talk on this topic, for some reason is not possible. In such cases, one of several avoidance strategies can be applied.
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One of the first and fairly simple strategies is to leave the question unanswered. But simply ignoring the question would be somewhat unethical, and therefore it can be answered without giving any specific information. Thus, the answer will sound, but there will be no sense in this. "How are you?" - "I want it to be even better." The answer is voiced, and let the questioner decide how to evaluate it. To the question "How much do you get paid?" you can always answer something standard: "Like everyone in this area." The question did not go unanswered, and therefore you can already ask something yourself and change the subject.
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Another strategy that can be applied in this case is mirroring. In general, this is one of the methods of active listening, but in a situation where you do not want to answer a question, it can also be used. Here you can either clarify something with a design like "I understand you correctly, that
"or delve into the topic and ask a similar provocative question to the interlocutor. For example, to the question about personal life, you can say" Do I understand correctly that the most important thing for you now is my personal life? ". To delve into the topic in order to put the questioner in place, it’s also quite simple: “When are you going to give birth to the second child?” - “And when are you the third?”
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Another useful trick is demonstration. This is more suitable for artistic persons, for modest people it is much more difficult to use such a technique. So, wringing fingers and hands, covering your face and writhing a pathetic grimace of horror, you can say: "Never again in your life ask me such questions!". You can react more calmly and recall how world stars behave at conferences, where questions also do not differ in tact: "Please, the next question." And you can express all your bewilderment with a rounded face and the question "What, what did you ask?"
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Another tactic, in order not to answer the question posed, is to communicate the details. Moreover, they need to be reported so that the person never wants to ask anything again. So, to the frequent question of distant acquaintances, "Is it time for you to marry?" you can always come up with a long tirade in advance: "Imagine, I was also interested in this, I bought a book. I read it. It says that Taurus, born in a leap year and working in the field of advertising (it doesn’t matter what kind of nonsense to pronounce, it’s only important to download the person you’re talking to) is difficult to interact with the signs of the fire element. Therefore, now I’m looking for a man of the air sign, however, he must still be connected with the Cosmos by work. So until I find my own, I’m not going to ". And you can generally answer questions about health in this tactic for hours without reporting a word on the case.
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Humor can always help in any situation. A sense of humor is not in vain called an assistant in many life situations, and even when interacting with others it is generally irreplaceable. They ask an uncomfortable question - you have to joke. Continue - still a joke. When the interlocutors understand that you do not intend to answer seriously, they themselves will lag behind. This tactic is especially effective in questions about money: "How many tickets did you buy?" - "I sold a kidney, so I even managed to postpone it." You can always say, in the tone of a professional psychologist, "Do you want to talk about this?" or remember the humorous programs with the unforgettable phrase "Because gladiolus."