Some people are naturally self-respecting. Others, alas, have been missing him all his life. But this is fixable, because people are able to change and develop, if they have such a goal.
Instruction manual
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Create the foundation for that feeling. To do this, you need to find at least 10 of your positive qualities and draw each of them in the form of a kind of hieroglyph that is understandable only to you. These hieroglyphs need to be transferred to several pieces of thick cardboard. You can put one of them in your wallet, the other under plexiglass on your desktop, and use the third as a bookmark in the book you are reading. The notebook should contain a transcript of each of these signs. To draw such signs is better than just writing qualities, for two reasons. The first is how you will use the right hemisphere, which thinks in images and creates a new image of yourself. The second is that you don’t need to worry that someone who isn’t looking at your list will read your list.
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Work on the speed of your movements. They should become slower and more solid. Make yourself speak slower, nothing spoils a weighty impression as fast, confused speech. You will move from external changes to internal ones, and self-esteem will appear after you begin to make a more solid impression.
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Learn to behave not as it is accepted, but as you need. This is not necessarily a provocative behavior in spite of generally accepted concepts, but be prepared to violate the rules and not worry about it. In the West, this quality is called assertiveness. Recently, excellent literature has appeared on the development of this skill. You should get acquainted with it. Indeed, often the decency and expectations of others prevent people from making and implementing the only right decisions. And what self-esteem can there be if a person is constantly afraid of what others will say about him? You need to take into account the opinions of others, but you should not follow it blindly. A person with self-esteem is not afraid to violate some norms for business.