The situation when a person becomes the owner of a secret that can destroy another family and cause someone severe pain is quite complicated. However, according to psychologists, it is quite possible to find a way out of it.
To say, but how …
First, you need to verify the accuracy of the information. There is nothing worse than slandering a man and bringing discord into the family of his close friend, while in reality there is no reason for unrest. The situation can become even more complicated if a couple brings up children - in this case it is necessary to take the issue as seriously as possible and talk (if such a decision is made) about cheating on the spouse only if there are facts. However, if the information is only speculation, no matter how strong the negative attitude to the husband of a friend may be, you should not even start a conversation on this topic. As popular wisdom says: "Do not dig another hole, you yourself will fall into it." In other words, the truth will eventually come to light, and you can lose your girlfriend …
If there is no doubt that the spouse is cheating, it is very important to weigh the pros and cons before informing the girlfriend. You can try to lose the possible scenarios - how will she react to such information? In difficult cases, when a decision cannot be made, psychologists advise using the so-called “sheet of paper” method. Having divided the page into two parts, it is necessary to state all the reasons why you want to "open the eyes" of a deceived wife. For example, resentment for a girlfriend, hostility to a husband or a new object of his feelings, or simply a desire to restore justice. And next - try to predict the likely consequences - a spouse quarrel, divorce, etc.
Some women, even with the indisputable facts of husband’s infidelity, prefer to continue to live “with their eyes closed”, maintaining confidence that everything is going well in their family. There can be many reasons for this - from financial or psychological dependence on the husband to banal self-doubt, low self-esteem and unwillingness to open conflict. And even if you tell her that the husband is “going to the left, ” such a woman can break up with her friend, but try to keep her marriage in spite of this “annoying misunderstanding”. It is sad, sometimes wives are simply afraid to talk about this topic with their husbands … And if the desire to tell your friend about her husband’s infidelity is irresistible, it is important to weigh all the nuances in advance in order to be prepared for various developments.