The best friend is a stylist, psychotherapist and lawyer all rolled into one. Close relationships are hard to imagine without resentment and disagreement. Only real friends who value each other can overcome these differences.
Instruction manual
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Try to objectively evaluate what exactly hurts you in the words or actions of a friend. Does she criticize you in the presence of strangers? Make an appointment and not come, forgetting to warn about it? Frankly flirts with your young man? If such situations happen with frightening regularity, we can safely state the fact - this girl is not your girlfriend. And only one thing is not clear - for the sake of what it is necessary to endure insults and humiliations?
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Talk frankly with your girlfriend. You can’t keep resentment in yourself. Quietly explain to your friend what exactly you are not comfortable with in a relationship. Perhaps you just see the same situation differently. “You're in this dress like a fat cow, ” she said of your purchase. You considered it a humiliation. And she sincerely believes that she did a good deed, pointing out your shortcomings. She actively communicates with a young man who you like, admiringly stroking pumped up biceps and asking him to help with the move? Upon hearing your dissatisfaction with such behavior, a friend may sincerely be surprised. He thought that he was doing you pleasant, establishing friendly relations with your boyfriend. You may not recognize all this if you do not decide to have an open conversation. Popular wisdom that the word is silver, and silence is gold, in this case does not work.
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Having expressed your complaints, look at the reaction of a friend. I waved it off with a snort of displeasure? Laughed and advised not to bother? It is strange that after all this you continue to consider her a friend. For her, your displeasure is an empty phrase. True friends are valuable in listening to each other's opinions. You can consider her your best friend. And she perceives you only as a neighbor at the desk, from whom you can write off lectures.
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Answer for yourself the question: "For what am I humiliated?" Perhaps you think that she is better than you in everything. She dresses fashionably, studies better, earns more, is always surrounded by fans. And at the same time he takes money in debt, forgetting to return it. In the presence of strangers makes fun of your appearance or habits. Maybe one to leave the club where you came together, without deigning to warn. If you are ready to continue to endure such humiliation - there is a psychological dependence. For you, it is like the sun. Being close to the Sun, you can only be a pale moon.
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Contact a psychologist if you are not able to independently break off relations with a person who humiliates you. Perhaps the psychologist will reveal your tendency to masochism or fear of loneliness.