Fear of error, failure, condemnation from the outside, unwillingness to actively act, make decisions and "disentangle" the consequences - there can be many reasons for the infantile avoidance of responsibility. But it is responsibility that distinguishes an adult who walks through life confidently and freely, from a cowardly mattress who prefers to suffer, to be crowded, to complain about life, but to sail in a strange boat.
Instruction manual
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Think of yourself as a child. You had so much creative energy, enthusiasm, you wanted to try everything, and the idea of growing up and gaining independence seemed so attractive. Now you have grown up, all the possibilities are finally open for you, but you are already "buried" in your doubts and fears and do not dare to do anything. But all that’s needed is to make a decision once and start acting!
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Any choice implies your responsibility. Of course, it is not so great when it comes to choosing between rice or pasta for dinner, but if you can’t even decide on your own, how will you manage your life, time, and health? Can you be responsible for other people?
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Not wanting to take on any responsibility, very often people begin to blame everything that happens in their lives on other people and in general external circumstances: poor government, parents not brought up like that, the weather is not favorable
You can endlessly blame the environment for your troubles: they say, "I'm not me, and the horse is not mine." But then do not be surprised that someone else controls this "horse", or rather, your life.
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Often behind the refusal to take responsibility is perfectionism - an unmotivated desire to be perfect in everything. The roots of this phenomenon lie in childhood: if the child’s parents praised little, noted little about his successes and achievements, but at the same time demanded a lot and scolded him for the slightest mistake, he might form the conviction that it’s impossible to love him, so imperfect, but generally accept. And as you know, he who does nothing is not mistaken. That is why, fearing to make a mistake, such a person avoids responsibility and activity. But this is a dead end option, because perfection is unattainable, and invented ideals exist only in the head, and not in reality. It’s better to make mistakes from time to time, to learn from your mistakes, than not to do anything and not even try. What if it works out? Become a little more lenient towards yourself.
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Redefine your outlook on life. It is a mistake to think that you maintain your freedom by evading responsibility. If you are not responsible for your actions, dreams, problems, difficulties and successes, it means that someone else is doing it, from whom you are completely dependent.
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Overcome your doubts and fears. Every day, do something that scares you, and gradually, starting with the little things, accustom yourself to make informed choices at every step, not allowing anyone to make decisions for you. To become responsible means to dare to declare oneself and accept the consequences of any choice, action or word.