Baseless jealousy can ruin even the strongest relationship. Expressing in distrust of a loved one, this feeling can seriously offend him. There are various methods to combat jealousy.
You will need
- - gym membership;
- - a ticket to the theater;
- - consultation of a psychologist.
Instruction manual
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Keep in mind that each person, no matter whether your relationship is bound by marriage or not, needs a certain amount of freedom. Your second half should have his personal living space, as well as the time that he can spend only on himself, on his hobby, etc. Do not limit the freedom of your wife or husband, otherwise she or he will very soon want to fly out of your cage.
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Do not blame a person for treason until this fact is 100% proven. You can slander a person, you can fake photographs and even video materials with evidence of his alleged betrayal. Do not believe such provocations until you see everything with your own eyes. Who benefits from lying to you about the betrayal of your other half? Many, ranging from business competitors to losers, envious of your family happiness.
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Learn to trust your loved one. No serious relationship can last long without mutual trust. After all, do you believe that he (she) loves you? And if so, then why should he (her) cheat on you with someone else?
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Leave the habit of checking the mobile phone of your other half. You should also not sniff his shirts and look for traces of lipstick on them. Do not arrange interrogations with an addiction on the topic: where and with whom were you (were)? So clearly demonstrating your distrust of a loved one, humiliating him with questions, you can achieve the opposite result: a faithful husband, deciding to correspond to your ideas about him, goes to the left, an honest wife decides in revenge to taste the forbidden fruit.
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Work to increase self-esteem. If all the time it seems to you that your beloved or beloved is cheating on you, the problem lies in your critical attitude towards yourself. If you consider yourself not smart enough, interesting or handsome, there is a reason to drop self-discipline and ridiculous jealousy and take care of yourself. Sign up for a pool or gym, find an interesting hobby, learn a foreign language, work on broadening your horizons, etc.
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Take your free time with a variety of useful and interesting things: travel, participate in charity, visit theaters and exhibitions, etc. So you will achieve two goals at once: you will become a more self-sufficient interesting person and do not leave room in your daily routine for destructive emotions like jealousy.
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If you think that your loved one gives you reasons for jealousy, seriously talk to him about it in a relaxed atmosphere. Say that it hurts you, explain what exactly bothers you: his manner of clothing, behavior with the opposite sex, etc. Just do not go too far and do not ask your wife to go in the burqa, and try not to determine the distance in meters for the husband, which he must keep with any pretty girl, even if she will be his boss for work.
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Always remember that you are a well-mannered civilized person. Behave with dignity in any situation, do not arrange showdowns and scandals in public, especially if something seemed to you. Treason can exist only in your imagination, but a break in relations based on constant distrust and scandals with a partner can be quite real.
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If you cannot cope with the problem of groundless jealousy on your own, consult an experienced psychotherapist. Perhaps your experiences are deep-rooted and rooted in the distant past. An experienced specialist will help you establish and neutralize their causes.
note
In some situations, people specifically provoke the jealousy of a partner. Analyze whether you pay enough attention to your other half, whether she (him) has a reason for resentment against you, etc. In order to eliminate jealousy in these cases, first of all, it is necessary to solve the main problem.
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