Each female representative will describe the tyrant male in approximately the same way - this is a gloomy and gloomy type who is annoyed by any "wrong" movement or word. In most girls, they sincerely cannot understand how their relative (girlfriend, colleague) did not immediately see suspicious features in her gentleman, because she was with him around the clock, as she did not see a tyrant in him?
The answer is simple! Aggressive males are very cute at first glance. The bouquet-and-candy period with its standard program is excellent. They are incredibly charming and damn charming. And, according to psychologists, this is what should alert a woman. A person’s positivity in everything, as a rule, can be a signal that he is trying to hide his "little black" nature. Aggressors very well control themselves in public. The mask of the “ideal man” falls only with very close people.
The saddest thing is that not all aggressors are prudently looking for a victim. So many of them really want a family. They behave honestly and correctly, which is very attractive. But he is afraid to lose his beloved, to become a laughing stock for everyone, his hidden self-doubt pushes him to make his beloved dependent on him. He gradually convinces that the girl is not so good, that he is the best in her life. Without him, she will disappear, and now the most true thing for her is to please him in everything. And she does so, because she has come under the influence completely. But he still will not be satisfied. He continues to “cultivate” perfection for himself, and the methods are becoming tougher. He motivates his aggression by the fact that he teaches how to live, and she, so bad, does not understand anything. Where did the roots of this aggression come from, maybe this is the scenario of the parents, or maybe the former relationship, or is he just crazy and dear to him to the doctor? But there is only one result - a woman with a wounded body and soul.
In order not to deal with the causes of aggression later, one must learn to calculate a tyrant by the little things.
Past life
It is necessary to be attentive to what he says about the former, whether they are girls, friends or relatives. If all the "former relatives" become enemies, if all of them, according to him, are wolves in sheep's clothing, you should not try to prove to him that you are exactly a "sheep" that you will not betray. This is his world filled with enemies. And you too will become one, if you part with him, you will be an enemy a priori.
Common interests
It must be remembered that for a tyrant there are only his interests. Any other point of view is perceived with hostility or ridiculed. And it doesn't matter if someone’s feelings are offended or not.
Mood stability
A mood with sudden jumps is peculiar to such a person. Moreover, there is a need for people nearby to adapt to it. Just fun, laughter, and now something happened, some trifle, and a cold mask on his face. The girl is trying to cheer, stir up, but in response all the same facial expression, that moment until the girl does not leave a smile from her face. And then the continuation of the "game". Try to change the rules, and you will probably find out how a man "lets off steam."
Measure of remorse
We all allow aggression in our lives, shouting, knocking on the table and so on. This is always ugly, but usually normal - since, in fact, aggression is a reflex of protection. It is enough to apologize afterwards for your incontinence and explain the reason for your behavior. But if a person “climbs out of the skin” in his apologies, if he gives gifts even for the smallest anger, it is worthwhile to beware and slow down your rapprochement with such an individual, at least until the next such moment when he leaves the permissible limits.
Do not think that with your tenderness, affection, love you can turn a monster into a prince, this is extremely rare. Of course, one does not need to look for pathological deviations in every man, just do not rush into rapprochement with a man, give time to him and yourself. Let there be big words, wild impulses, unpredictable actions, because you both know that there is still a whole happy life ahead. And if a man wants to explode from reluctance to wait, let you be as far away as possible from him.