Any close relationship is impossible without trust and understanding. When a friend betrays you, you are unlikely to ever be able to forget about her act, but if she repents and asks her to be forgiven, then maybe you should try to maintain a relationship? After all, not always one bad deed crosses dozens of good ones. Forgiving is difficult, but without learning to forgive, you can lose too much.
Instruction manual
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Rate your feelings. If you want your girlfriend to stay in your life, you will have to step over her deception or betrayal. If you are not ready for this, if you do not want to see her not only now, but never again, then you should not torment both of you. Tell her honestly and end the relationship. If you are offended, disappointed, angry, but cannot imagine how you will live without it, then you need to forgive, first of all, for your own sake. You don’t want to be unhappy while experiencing the trauma you are doing over and over again?
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Be prepared for the fact that forgiveness is a long process. The decision made and the intention does not mean an instant result. In order to heal a cut or bruise, it takes time, just as it takes to heal a wound, it takes weeks, months, and sometimes years.
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Recognize that everyone has the right to make mistakes. Perhaps at least once in your life have you been close to deceiving someone's trust? Have you ever let anyone down? If you can make a mistake, then your loved one should not be perfect. Did you manage to resist all the temptations? This is good, but most people, unfortunately, are far from perfect. They have to work on themselves. Be patient and understanding.
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Talk frankly with your girlfriend. Tell her everything that you feel. Let her know how much pain and frustration you feel. But do not scream, do not blame, talk only about yourself and then listen to her. Perhaps she can somehow explain her act, and it will no longer seem so monstrous to you. Perhaps in this situation there are some circumstances that you do not know about, some motives hidden from you.
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Put yourself in her place. Could you do the same thing? And if you did, how would you feel after? Would you like to be understood and tried to forgive in such a situation?
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Make clear the boundaries of your forgiveness. Tell her that you are ready to give her a chance to restore relations, but only on the condition that she is aware of what has happened and will never do this to you again.
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Do not expect the relationship to immediately become the same. Even if you sincerely managed to forgive your girlfriend, this does not mean at all that you trust her again as you did before the event that threatened your friendship. Time must pass, and if your loved one makes efforts to restore your faith in him, there will certainly come a moment when you will feel that your forgiveness has become complete.